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BigDUSA
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Japan's virgin wives turn to sex volunteers
Lustless matches put country on brink of demographic disaster
Justin McCurry in Tokyo
Monday April 4, 2005
The Guardian
Like many Japanese women, Junko waited until her early 30s to get married. When she and her fiancé, an employee of a well-known firm, decided to tie the knot, she set her sights on making a home, putting away some money and starting a family.
Fifteen years later, Junko and her husband are childless. It is not that they cannot have children; it is just that they have never had sex.
The sexless marriage is one of several reasons why experts fear Japan is on the verge of a demographic disaster.
In 2003 Japan's birthrate hit a record low of 1.29 - the average number of times a woman gives birth during her lifetime - one of the lowest rates in the world, according to the cabinet office. The population will peak next year at about 128 million, then decline to just over 100 million by 2050.
The 200 women a year who seek help at a clinic in the Tokyo suburbs have not had sex with their husbands in up to 20 years, and some never, according to Kim Myong-gan, who runs the clinic.
"The women who come to see me love their husbands and aren't looking for a divorce," he told the Guardian. "The problem is that their husbands lose interest in sex or don't want sex from the start. Many men think of their wives as substitute mothers, not as women with emotional and sexual needs."
Mr Kim's short-term solution is unconventional. After an initial 20,000 yen (£100) counseling session, he produces photographs of 45 men, mostly professionals in their 40s, with whom the women are invited to go on dates and then, in almost all cases, arrange regular assignations in hotel rooms.
Mr Kim dismissed charges that his service was little more than a male prostitution ring. "The men volunteer and pay half the hotel and restaurant bills, so legally there is absolutely nothing wrong with it," he said.
He had rescued hundreds of women from despair, he said, but his "sex volunteers" would do nothing to cure the malaise that afflicts the institution of marriage in Japan.
The number of married couples is in rapid decline. In 2000 almost 70% of men and 54% of women between 25 and 29 were unmarried. That bodes ill for the birthrate, as conservative Japanese society frowns upon having children outside marriage.
A survey of 600 women found that 26% had not had sex with their husbands in the past year.
"We are sort of room-mates rather than a married couple," one 31-year-old man, who had not had sex with his wife for two years, told the Asahi Shimbun newspaper.
The government has introduced several measures to lift the birthrate. Fathers will be encouraged to take more than the 47% of annual paid leave they currently use, and their employers will be told to provide more opportunities for them to stay at home with their children.
Local authorities, meanwhile, are devising novel ways to increase fertility. In the town of Yamatsuri women will receive 1m yen if they have a third child, and in Ishikawa prefecture families with three children will get discounts at shops and restaurants.
The absence of children in so many homes is having an impact. Fun parks are closing and there are signs that the "exam hell" teenagers go through to secure places at top schools and universities is less of an ordeal because the competition is less fierce.
The divorce rate has nearly doubled in the past 10 years, with more women blaming their sexually inactive, as opposed to sexually errant, husbands for break-ups.
"The men love their companies; they live for work," Mr Kim said. "Men don't even think it is a problem if they don't have sex with their wives. They have pornography and the sex industry to take care of their needs, but their wives have nowhere to go. They just suffer in silence."
Special report
Japan
They don't have to suffer in silence. I will be more then glad to donate my services, my essence so they no longer have to suffer. Of course I will need my air fare and expenses covered. 
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:48 am on April 10, 2005
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Mr Alan
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Quote: from BigDUSA on 9:42 am on April 10, 2005
"The men love their companies; they live for work," Mr Kim said. "Men don't even think it is a problem if they don't have sex with their wives. They have pornography and the sex industry to take care of their needs, but their wives have nowhere to go. They just suffer in silence."
Given the technological expertise the Japanese have with electronic gadgets, I don't think they suffer in silence.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 12:54 pm on April 10, 2005
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DaffyDuck
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Alright, if I even had doubts before, but now I am convinced the Japanese (men) are insane idiots, if that's a growing problem.
> "Men don't even think it is a problem if they don't have sex
> with their wives. They have pornography and the sex industry
> to take care of their needs
WTF?
They marry women that (clearly) want sex, but instead to go to LOS to overpay immensely (or their own sex industry) ???
>"The problem is that their husbands lose interest in sex or don't
> want sex from the start. Many men think of their wives as substitute
> mothers, not as women with emotional and sexual needs."
Now, THERE is an interesting social neurosis - but I guess if you want to insult a Japanese guy in front of his friends "When did you last f*** your wife!?" no longer cuts it - you'll just get confused looks and questions like "Why would I f*** my wife..."
Sad, and they thought it was bad in the west
Dr. von Quack!
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:33 pm on April 10, 2005
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Ballsburstin
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Hmmm,
so maybe the "come hither" looks I was getting from the middle-aged Japanese ladies while I sipped my lemonade outside the Landmark were not really my imagination... gives me an idea...
Speaking of which, this link appeared in my local newspaper travel section today. Maybe there's a connection, lol:
http://www.destinajapan.us
- Balls
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 1:51 pm on April 10, 2005
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BigDUSA
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Ballsburstin,
They want $2500USD for their service. Hellva lot of ST and beer.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 2:01 pm on April 10, 2005
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Ballsburstin
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BigD,
Damn, I didn't bother to read the fine print, lol! Thats my cheap charlie budget in LOS for months! Think I'll stick to trolling for desperate Japanese housewives at the Landmark.
- Balls
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 3:05 pm on April 10, 2005
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JimStick
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A few trips ago, I was cruzing down Suk around 10 pm and along side me walked a Japanese, mid 30s, woman dressed to kill (Knee high go go boots and a leather mini skirt), smling and looking real friendly. I spoke to her briefly thus confimring that she was indeed Japanese although I could tell by the looks and the walk. I suspect that she was looking to get picked up by a punter. I don't think she was husling (coulds make a lot more money in Japan). Just looking to get laid, I figure. I was meeting soemone and it was my last night so I passed.
Prior to a recent trip to Tokyo, found a personals web site and corresponsed with about 8 middle aged women, three were married. Due to logistics (Tokyo is huge and it could take two hours to get from one end tothe other) I settled on one, early 40s, perfect English. We went out to drink in Shinjuku (a real expesive proposition in Tokyo) and then back to my hotel. I am sure that the married ones would have been game if the logistics could have been worked out and I had been available during a weekday.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:09 am on April 11, 2005
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shyguy
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Jim,
I am going to Japan this summer and would be interested to know which website you did use...
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:45 am on April 11, 2005
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dirty guru
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I watched a japanese girl with her perfect body, and wet knickers jammed up her little pussy and arse run crying with sand in her eyes to a husband/boyfriend.she was 20 tops....and I was 2 feet away.."'my girlfreind saying not think too much darling murdering my hard on with her hand"'
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 12:14 pm on April 11, 2005
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etan
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Ive been working here as an english teacher for 3 years now.
J girls will pay you 3000 yen or more an hour just to sit and talk with them, and sometimes (often) you can f*** them. Its fantastic. But they are a little nuts most of the time. And they get obsessive.
A lot of yummy mummies around too, even after they've had kids, they still look hot
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:20 pm on April 11, 2005
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