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derman53
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I plan to marry my TGF in the next year and she talks about this dowry requirement and suggest that I will need to pay 100,000 Bhat. I have been sponsoring her and paying for her school, plus over 20,000 Bhat spent on gold. I would think this should count toward the 100,000 Bhat "requirement". Have any of the other members run into this situation about the dowry?
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:18 pm on Aug. 4, 2004
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jack attack
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derman 53,
Many threads with this info but I think you are stuck. I understand that it is both gold and cash and previous "investments" usually don't count. You probably want to be clear on how much you will have to continue to pay after the wedding. TG's seem to like to be on 'salary' and you can be sure a portion goes to the family.
To be honest, depending on your financial situation, that dowry might not be a lot of $$$. And don't get worked up if the $$$ goes to ma & pa. Some give it back to the daughter and some keep it themselves.
Congratulations. Let us know when the bachelor party is!!
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 10:14 pm on Aug. 4, 2004
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Oz
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I have known of Dowries of as low as 10K Baht and recently 12K UK pounds! As jack said many return it as a gift but don't count on it! 50K seems about the norm!
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:20 pm on Aug. 4, 2004
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expatchuck
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I paid my dowry at the end of the marriage, not at the beginning.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 10:49 pm on Aug. 4, 2004
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LocalYokul
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this whole issue has become really cloudy and revised again and again over time...
in the olden days, the gal was given a dowry if she was a virgin
It was also used as a tie-breaker to level the playing field if you will.
If the gal had more than one suitor, it would come down to who was willing to pay the most. Auction block tactics practically.
Eventually women decided they'd rather select the one they loved etc.
more recently they consider that she only need to be going into her first marriage, i.e., no previous marriages, to warrant a dowry
nowadays some parents request a dowry every time the gal gets married.
sometimes the guy is lucky enough to get the money back from ma & pa, but I think that is normally only among Thai suitors. I've only known of 1 Falahng guy who was returned the money, but his wife had a good job and was already doing just fine at supporting her family.
100k is nothing compared to some of the dowries I've seen paid.
Usually it accompanies a large piece of gold as well, such as a 10 Baht/weight necklace.
It can get into the millions, and of course is smaller for each sequential wedding, if she does in fact remarry.
and yes, you'd better find out now if she expects an increase in her "salary" once you're married.
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almost forgot, the money is also considered paying back ma & pa for throwing the wedding party. They had to pay for all the drinks and food...
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 10:52 pm on Aug. 4, 2004
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20yearsinthai
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Quote: from expatchuck on 10:49 am on Aug. 5, 2004
I paid my dowry at the end of the marriage, not at the beginning.
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Me too!!!!!!!
Tryin to gather another dowry now to end my second marriage
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Posted on: 8:03 am on Aug. 5, 2004
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cheapcharlie
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got married 5 yrs ago, no dowry just got talked into some gold armbands which she tries to up-grade each year, without success. Basically dowrys are paid for virgins.
One of my wifes daughters just got marrried a dowry
was paid of 50,000 bt but asking a falang for 100,000
is probably along the same lines.
In my experience this is all about face and showing
off, mine nags me for everything from houses to cars for her father, after she realises I ain't got it it stops if I said yes to everything I would have spent milions.
I just signed names in bangkok 5 yrs ago cost me 10,000 and some gold on top 20,000, no wedding party either. Its really up to you I decided we needed money for other things not blowing it on her family for a free piss up an nosh up.
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Posted on: 8:20 am on Aug. 5, 2004
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MaximusNaughtinus
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I heard the bride to be was a ladyboy, fcuk me, you sad fcuk. Do you know it is a ladyboy, or do you think he is a she, is she going to wear white, lol. Did she tell you she was a virgin, what the fcuk is the dowry for, so her brother can become the bridesmaid.
Fcuk me mate, wake up to yourself, you can't see the bush for the boulders lying in wait. Hey, does she work at 'Pickles' if yes, does her name start with 'F', f for falsified fanny. Maybe she is a virgin, you can be the first in her new hole, but her butt has been well and truly worn, did you notice her silent farts at night time as you lay cuddling, in fact didn't you notice that lump as you fell asleep in the fetal position, didn't you notice the morning glory, or that she pissed in the shower standing.
Anyway, her German boyfriend says to say hello and keep sending that cash, he likes the thought of living off of a suckHer like you. Is she still working, has she told you 'no my little honey bun, I no work bar anymore'. Well she was seen in there last week, so go figure.
I would just like some clarity on which hole you are paying the virginity Dowry for. Because technically she may not be lying, butt. Also, is she going to sign the register as Mr or Mrs, lol. Who is going to carry who over the threshhold, lol.
Best of luck, normally I would love to kiss the bride, but.
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Posted on: 11:25 am on Aug. 5, 2004
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derman53
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Cheapcharlie,
What part of the country is your wife from? My TGF is from the Nong Khai area near the Laos border. Maybe the "tradition" is still standard in the sticks as it were. You also said that the family paid for the wedding? is that true? Her family are Rice farmers but her two brothers and a sister have each built nice houses in the village so the family is not too bad off. If I tell her no dowry will she then say no marriage? Trying to Learn the Thai culture. Thanks
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Posted on: 12:56 pm on Aug. 5, 2004
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KillerFlix
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Jesus Christ, Derman you are trying to learn thai culture after you decided to marry a thai girl...???!!! I hate to say it but MaximusN might have a point here...
Which bar is she not working anymore?
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 5:07 pm on Aug. 5, 2004
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