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magnum
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Quote: from jingjo on 12:46 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
But getting back to Thai wife's, just find a Thai lady that never has worked in a bar, there's plenty!
... while marrying a non-bar girl improves the odds, Jingjo, the toxic culture of Thailand persists.
... even without the sex industry, Thailand still remains a survivor culture amidst subsistence economics... women are acquired from parents for compensation to support the parents... the dowry is represented as compensation for all the money the parents spent raising them... (yeah, you bet!)... then, the farang is saddled with the ongoing maintenance for life of the parents and every other member of the family, young and old, and even a few neighborhood hangers-on, if they can find a room at your throat.
... Thailand is a culture of parasites, preying upon economically healthy hosts... sure, there are exceptions, but I really think DG's counsel applies, whether a man marries a bar girl, or not.
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Posted on: 1:16 am on Nov. 17, 2010
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jingjo
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Sorry Mate
I beg to differ, the only parasites are working in the bar scene.
Thai culture is only where you hang eg bar whores pimps etc HELLO
Get away from the Bars meet the REAL people that won't sell you OUT.
But if you just want to f*** you have NO Chance 
I've been married for thirteen years and never had any requests from the Family that others hear talk about for MONEY and there from Isann Surin
WHY cause you all fall for a 9 or a 10 in your eyes 
If you FALL for a bar girl Silly you!
There only a rent a slut !
There's another Plane landing now.
My belief if there from BKK they NO good!
same same from SOUTH Thailand
UP 2 U
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Posted on: 1:37 am on Nov. 17, 2010
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magnum
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Quote: from jingjo on 2:37 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
I beg to differ, the only parasites are working in the bar scene.
Thai culture is only where you hang eg bar whores pimps etc HELLO
Get away from the Bars meet the REAL people that won't sell you OUT.
... and good on ya' mate, you found a good one.
... but, don't mistake me for a sex tourist, nor a newbie... I do hang on the bar rail maybe once monthly if friends are about, and will take a slut du jour maybe once in every one, or two months... I've lived and worked in a few all-Thai companies here for over 10 years, so I am not exactly a Pollyanna.
... and yes, I have spent a good deal of time in rural upcountry Thailand... don't live in Isaan, as you, but I've been in numerous dirt road tambons as a guest of Thai friends, not as a tourist... I am always curious to hear the stories about the kids from about the neighborhood, and am seldom impressed by what I see.
... as you have discovered, there are exceptions... I don't want to unfairly generalize all of Thailand into the moral cesspool... maybe the exceptions are more common in communities where there are respected elders and monks and strong communal ties to enforce positive behaviors... but, I sure haven't seen them in the scores of communities in which I have travelled as a guest of locals.
... I see sois there where only 1, or 2 out of 30, or so homes have children being raised by a mother and a father... the others are homes in which both parents abandoned their children...some just disappear until their greater needs drive them back... some, perhaps, for necessary economic reasons, but most I understand not.
... interestingly enough, though, the Thais I've met living in Nakhon Sri Thammarat (down South), the Buddhists, claim they are unlike the Thais from the North, Northeast and Bangkok... they said the Northern, Northeastern and Bangkok Thais only pretend to be Buddhists... they say the Southern Thais are true to their Buddhist beliefs, just as the Muslims in the South are true to theirs.
... maybe the level of moral and ethical behaviors are reflective of the strength in the bindings of the communities in which they live... that was impactful in my youth, in a rural farming community in which I was raised in the US.
... all in all, I am decidedly unimpressed overall with Thai cultural values... you, my man, are fortunate to have found that ephemeral dream for which many come here in search, and few really find.
... even then, marriage is hard even in the best of circumstances... compound that simple fact with differences in language, religion, culture, values, age, and on, and on, and on, and you got yourself a long row to hoe.
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Posted on: 4:39 am on Nov. 17, 2010
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harold444
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why does mumma really want this guy if she only interested in welfare of daughter.
something smells and this guy knows it............just doesnt want to believe the red flaggs!
HELL THE GUY SHOULD RUN just KNOWING THE GIRL IS extremely POSSESSIVE
you are already suspicious and just want to look the other way..........you have not convinced anyone here your girl is worthy of you.
but then again anyone who wants to barfine a lady and then wants to marry her is a bit looney!
ps. is a sex forum really the place to ask about marrying a girl who works in a bar,.....lol.
ps2. you know, most of us are jealous of you or have been burnt big time.................lol not me of korse!
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Posted on: 11:42 am on Nov. 17, 2010
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dirty guru
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Jingjo...i thought you were more switched on than that-
We have both been lucky because (i suppose each of our wives are not from a bar background) and get light treatment-
But your comment is from where I see naieve at best-
I lived in various places in the country side as well as towns and islands-
I saw dozens of examples of Farangs being taken by non bar girls- and family demands-
Its very dangerous telling the average Joe just go and get a non working girl- and "she'll be right>
My wife never worked bar but her family are demanding-
I am just experienced enough to control them-
In her village there is a Thai man living in a Farang house with his non working bar Thai girlfriend Til the Farang visits-
Then a big show of affection is displayed and the man reassumes the role of cousin
Infact two of the farang houses were set up by woman who never did bars but landed a husband-
Boy Oh Boy Jingjo if you think Thais are not oppurtunistical - you indeed my friend have been sheltered and/or very lucky
I saw one guy loose everything to a very charming sweet girl
She never worked and was met by him when she waitressed in a Resturant-
This good girl bad girl thing is very shallow-
But worse dangerous-
Some woman who you call sluts have made excellent wifes-
Its an individual thing-
I know guys who married a bar girl and took them to their respective countries or made house there (in Thailand and are many years happy-
While some office bitch has been almost satanic in taking a farang to cleaners-
Its just discernment and family
Your advice is known by many to be inaccurate-
Though I will agree,with" better chance if she is a non bar girl "of success-
You also say that its cost free but privately we both know woman dont ever come free-
As for Thai's in many quarters of society there are paradoxicals-
A poor street vendor will chase you with a ten baht coin change-
While a Thai man is weighing up how to screw you on building materials or a bull...just because your a "farang"
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Posted on: 1:53 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
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harold444
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its very hard to believe farangs marry non-bg types in great numbers.
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Posted on: 5:33 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
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dirty guru
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The ratio is getting higher-
My ex farang wife's Brother ran an advertising company in Bangkok - he did
I did - met in aranyaphet a year before going into the same place and seeing her again-
Friends of mine married Hong Kong straight woman-
The reality is office girls and hosties and such have Facebook and other general social newtork sites to meet western men
While I agree Harold it might only represent a smaller percentage - its very true-
In Samui I dated a girl who taught Yoga-
In Chiang Mai I dated a fashion designer-
Whores are great fun but once you have learnt the ropes seen it all-
Often straight woman are a safer alternative-
But as I said not always
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Posted on: 6:19 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
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thailife
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I prefer nasty looking girls with tattoos and piercings that know EXACTLY what to do in bed.
I am an old man now, but one thing I can tell you..... It's far better to have great sex as opposed to always looking for great sex and coming home to a boring woman.
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Posted on: 6:42 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
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magnum
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Quote: from Blonk on 6:06 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
Magnum and Jingjo..
f*** you and f*** you...
Stop talking about your own shit and talk about me for Fk sake
... poor Blonk... getting lost in all the clinical debate... but, you've got a decision to make... a big one.
... consider marrying the woman, with a 5-year exit plan... any of you farang married to Thais have any suggestions on how he might structure this deal?
1 - maybe preserve a significant portion of your financial assets... your emotional assets go at full risk;
2 - this part is VERY is important - no kids until after the 5-year evaluation (get yourself reversible testicle plugs, to be sure) ;
3 - plan a trial residence overseas with her for a year or so to see how she travels, in case you absolutely must get out of a bad situation;
4 - pay a private investigator to condiuct pre-marital due diligence on her personal habits... maybe test her fidelity by planting in front of her a younger, better looking, richer cock-swing of a shill to learn how devoted she is to you;
5 - pre-plan events over the course of time to test the intentions of the wife, mumma, family, hangers-on (flush out the ne'er-do-wells).
... could any of you experienced guys out there advise the baffled and bamboozled Blonk on such a strategy?
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Posted on: 7:51 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
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China Sailor
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blonk....
The fact that you are asking 'the question' is enough indicate that you are NOT ready to marry the girl. Based on my observations from nearly 30 years of being associated with Thais (and Filipinos who are not much different) I can confidently predict that if you jump in now you are destined for a world of grief.
My suggestion is to set up housekeeping with the girl for at least a year and see how it works.... pretty much the same thing you would do with a Farang girl these days.... then if the relationship goes south it becomes a case of 'no harm, no foul'.
If she does not agree to this type of arrangement then I would say 'pull the rip-cord and bail out'.... she is not that much in 'lub' with you.
Furthermore IMHO throwing over a good job in OZ to become an unemployed wanderer in LOS is not the wisest of choice either...
BTW: This is not the cynical comments of a old, fat, burned out, and cheated punter. This is the sage advice of a well grounded Expat in a stable and committed relationship with a Singaporean lady from his own age group  ...
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Posted on: 8:40 pm on Nov. 17, 2010
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