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Glosterboy
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I have only been here 2 years so consider myself a newbie.
I have got to the stage where I find going out at night a complete mental f__k up, guess I have realised what the f__k happens in this place. I am not a hard core P4P punter, but have taken girls from bars, lived with one for 14 months (fell in love in the first bar I went to in SC)
Had other "girlfriends" who I thought were realy nice people but turned out to be real players.
Is it so hard to find a normal girl?
What I am trying to say is has anyone else got to this stage and thought about just going home and never ever ever comming back? I am at the stage were I will close my company and go back to the uk for my own mental health.
I value your comments on thos quite seriuos matter.
Cheers.
Glosterboy
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:34 pm on Nov. 26, 2004
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Mr Alan
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It is possible, but highly unlikely that you will find the kind of girl that you are apparently looking for if you are looking in bars, go-go's, and MP's.
You need to figure out how to meet a TG who has never been connected to the P4P industry. The best way is often through other Thai's who have respectable jobs that can introduce you to the right woman.
It is not impossible to meet the right women in P4P, but it is very difficult. One reason TG's are so jaded is that TG's who are interested in a long term relationship with a farang outside of P4P, have been burned by farangs far more often than you have been burned by TG's.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 8:44 pm on Nov. 26, 2004
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French Goat
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Glosterboy,
I know many "normal" girls in Thailand, mainly located in Issan, willing to marry a farang. Some can speak English a little bit. Most of them have already one or two children. But they are not stunners, just "normal" girls.
If you really want to meet these "normal" girls, just send me a PM for the details.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:04 pm on Nov. 26, 2004
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koolbreez
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Have you tried the LOS dating websites? There's been some ppl here that have used them.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 9:39 pm on Nov. 26, 2004
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dirty guru
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Go the chang mai side avoid issaan just on the "'spirtual level"' they are looked down on by ordinary thais, as being less moral. ofcourse its all hypocrisy, but to fullfill the dream. Play their game. move to (or visit alot) a small country town in the chang mai or chang rai region. Learn alittle thai. have a bank account, be polite and honest. Dont seek P4p in that area. They will come to you. Have no sex. And choose the woman carefully. Make sure she is 20 years younger and preferably a virgin. Ofcourse you can always seek out a new beer bar girl who is 20, and sweep her off her feet, and go live in her village. Thailand is, and can be damaging to ones mental health. You get to the point in time that the illussion you discover was false, it devastes you. I work in the reverse I devaste them. I am programmed to charm, warm, use and destoy. Alittle of the things that occurred to me so often, now I mirror it. I doubt you could safely bear your heart in that country without a bank account, and the ability to believe in santa.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 10:12 pm on Nov. 26, 2004
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Glosterboy
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I can speak a little thai and do meet girls from outside the P4P scene. But I do think they just see me as a walking ATM? and not me, mad welder from England
Have tried thailandfriends.com its ok but when you chat to the girls they either flame you because you are falang or wont to marry you instantly???
Anyway thanks for all the help, perhaps a trip outside bkk is a good idea, I dont ming going to new places it could be fun after all.
Glosterboy
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:30 pm on Nov. 26, 2004
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Blattsucker
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Well, I think going to other places will not solve your problem. What I understand from you in this topic is that the girls are not the problem, but you are your self. So by moving on you take your problem with you. Where ever you go.
You probably heard (and maybe even said it your self a million times) the saying : You can take a girl out of the bar, but you can not take the bar out of the girl.
My feeling is that that is your problem. You can take the boy out of Gloster, but you can not take Gloster out of the boy.
I have the feeling you are living a fantasy and you "hate" the girls for not (rightly or wrongly) living up to your fantasy. I think you have the false conseption that your culture is the one and only and certainly the best culture. You think, like most western people, that you should marry out of love and love alone. And then you go and live in a culture that is totaly different and expect them to live by your rules. For thais there are important things in life that are totaly unimportant to you. They value family or parents much higher then you do. Maybe even higher than marriage. Maybe you are just the means to the goal instead of the goal itself. That does not mean they don't love you.
Maybe you had bad luck and 9 out of 10 were bad girls, but that should not surprise you when you shop at Nana for a future wife. On the other hand maybe you just don't understand the girls and their motives and think they are just after your money, while they are, like most women in the world, after security.
In India parents decide who their children will marry in 10 years. We hate that. But 75% of our marriages fail. So who are we to say they do it wrong, when we our self are on the wrong track. So find out what thais want in a marriage. I bet you they say the same things as we do, only the order in which they say them is different.
And to close your company (sounds big) seems a bit drastic for you not getting mrs. Right. So a hundred people should be unemployed because you are unlucky in love. That is a bit selfish. And what makes you think you are worse off then 90% of the world. Or that you will find mrs. Right in where ever you go next. My guess is that you should go looking for mr. Right inside yourself. After that maybe the finding of mrs. Right is a lot easier.
You better find a good friend, who knows BKK, that will tell you the truth about you or your girls. And not someone you wants you to buy the next round at the RT. And have some serious long talks with him. So you can find out if YOU went wrong and if so, where??
In your other topic I asked if I could be your son. Well maybe there is an other option. Can you be my boss?
You have a company and are a welder. Do you need an AutoCAD civil engineerings artist? I need a job an I need to be in BKK. Sounds like a perfect match! 
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:57 pm on Nov. 26, 2004
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BigDUSA
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You got some good advice from the guys.
Now for something completely different.
I've met some of the nicest girls at church socials. Now before guys say WTF in BKK. Ya, nice women go to church. The kind of women who would make a good wife/girl friend. There are Christian Churches in BKK. Go and mingle.
You say you own a company. Make it known to your Thai suppliers that you want to meet a nice women. Do the same with your senior employees. Volunteer to teach English at a local school. You will meet teachers. Do the same at a local hospital. Good place to meet MD and RN.
You have to put yourself in places where QUALITY women hang out. That doesn't include Nana Hotel parking lot at 1AM.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:59 am on Nov. 27, 2004
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Glosterboy
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BigD.
Thanks for the help.
Blattsucker.
You have hit the nail on the head! Sorry no jobs at the moment.
I must say that you guys can offer alot of help, once again thanks and have realy taken in what you have said.
Glosterboy
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 1:07 am on Nov. 27, 2004
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BigDUSA
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Glosterboy,
The funny thing is with you living there two years, I'd be asking you where can I meet good non P4P women.
If everything works out I plan on moving to LOS in two years. I don't plan on having a BG move in with me. To much baggage and head games with most of them.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:11 am on Nov. 27, 2004
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