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jimbocol
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Just back from LOS. Met a wonderful girl. Spent all of my time with her. Making long term plans to marry her in 3-6 months time. Of course I want to get her off the street in the meantime. A few things have happened that have made me question if she is being honest with me which I would like your opinion about. Of course, I am speaking in a "negative" tone here, so try to see through that as objectively as you can...
She has to support a 3 year old daughter. At first, she told me she needed 13,000 baht a month to do this so she doesn't have to work. This is a hardship for me, but I thought I could swing it so I agreed. I asked her to confirm this amount at least 3 times and got the same answer. Now suddenly she says I must have misunderstood her, and that she needs 30,000 baht a month. She lives with a lot of relatives 13 or so in a 3 room apartment that is very run down. She has to pay her relatives 1000 baht a month to live there with her daughter. The rest of the money I would assume is needed to feed her and her daughter.
There is another factor here. Right after I sent the first bunch of money that was suppose to last her three months, her daughter had a stomach problem and spent nearly a week in the hospital. By the time the dust settled, all of the money I had sent was gone and I had to send more.
Ok, a couple of questions here. I know I am close to the "flame" here so maybe not seeing objectively. I do think these things are possible, but I also think chance I am being taken. What is your opinion. Also, what is a reasonable "cost of living" in the situation I described here is it closer to 13,000 or 30,000. Maybe I did misunderstand her - I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I am starting to doubt....
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:53 pm on June 2, 2003
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dbric36
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Dude, you are being taken big time. If she only pays 1000 baht rent then the most you should give her is maybe 10000 baht month. Man even that is a big salary for a normal Thai. WAKE UP!!
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 5:10 pm on June 2, 2003
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Kenny
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She is using you! Do not marry her or else you will be screwed for life!
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 5:20 pm on June 2, 2003
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Vegas
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Cut her off NOW!
I was with a TG and we ran into a friend of hers. My TG told me that the other girl did not have to work anymore because her boyfriend sent her money every month......hint hint 5555555.
I was curious as to how much that would take and my TG told me it was 13,000 Baht....and this coming from a girl who asks for 3,000 Baht for LT (although she will take whatever is offered for 2nd and 3rd nights)
It sounds like your girl went with the going rate at first, but when she saw how easy it was she realized that you could support the whole extended family!
One thing that is for sure.....she is definitely not looking after the interests of her BIG, BIG Lover (unless she is giving your money to him 55555555)
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 6:42 pm on June 2, 2003
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tingtong
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hey jimbocol,
i think next month her buffalo will have diarreah and this will cost you another 30k thb... lol 555
btw, a typical salary of a university graduate directly after graduation is about thb 5k.
tingtong
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:16 pm on June 2, 2003
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zzzZ
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Sorry bro, I have to concur... you are probably being taken advantage of. Not that she couldn't spend the money on all legit stuff. However, 30,000 baht is not the kind of money that a relatively poor girl needs, or is used to needing to "get by". Remeber that most normal jobs start in the 7000 baht range. This is usually for girls that live at home and not so easy to survive in BKK at that wage. Once you get to 15,000 to 20,000 you are talking about a pretty decent living by thai standards. 30,000 is starting to really get up there and probably the give away in your case.
It seems as though she started with what she felt she needed (13000) and then after talking to some friends decided to go for 30,000 since they were probably talking about being able to do it to other guys. I have heard so many stories like this that it almost seems like it is written in a "how to" book.
If you still want to hang in there, get a PI to check out everything she is doing or you will get no peace of mind.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:12 pm on June 2, 2003
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Kryptonite
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Holy shit you are being taken big time.
I work in Thailand, I make 50,000bht per month. I support a family of 4, rent, utilities, new car, and p4p on this salary. Hell, I will be your girlfriend for that amount of money LMAO!
Wake up and smell the coffee dude! You don't marry the first Thai pussy you bang!
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:26 pm on June 2, 2003
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jimbocol
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Thanks everybody - I guess I needed to hear this.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:32 pm on June 2, 2003
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Arramsey
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Now for the other side of the coin ----
Are you really in love with her ? Or is it just pity or infatuation ?
If it is the latter then go with the advice above and don't read further .
If it is the latter then here are a few points to consider :-
(1) If your conversations with her were in English then there is a good possibility that "thirteen" could have been mistaken for "thirty" by a Thai .
(2) I definitely agree that B30,000 per month is one hell-a-va lot of money for a working class Thai . But as I have said in earlier posts under the thread "Sponsorship amounts " a BG's notional requirement of money per month depends a great deal on :-
- what she was earning while working .
- what ambitions or comittments ( like building a house , etc. ) she had or has .
- where she will be staying ( Bangkok , some smaller city or in a village ) .
- her perception as to how long you will stick with her .
So if you truly love her ( and ONLY if you truly love her ) then consider the above and try work it out with her .
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 11:27 pm on June 2, 2003
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Ballsburstin
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jimbocol,
Despite Arramsey's attempt to balance our negative reaction to your question, I have to concur. My TGF is being sponsored to the tune of 20K per month. She sends half of this upcountry to support her son, family, brother in university, sick water buffalo, etc.
She keeps 10K for herself (she has a spreadsheet budget I ask her to keep every month - which she does, she also shows me the reciepts for rent, utilities, etc. and they all jive) and is able to live in a 2K Baht apartment that is simple, clean, and nice, pays for all her personal expenses, including an occasional (small) shopping spree for a 300 Baht blouse, etc., movies, dinners in and out.
So, yes, you are being squeezed for far more than you can imagine. My TGF would be happy to get 30K a month, but has never asked for any more, and she was one of the top money makers at her former a-go-go bar.
Stop the dole, she's not being honest with you!
- Balls
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:17 am on June 3, 2003
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