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Smegma
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Do you have a hard time remembering the last time you had an opinion? Do you recall your last decision? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? And did this all happen once you got involved with your current TGF? Could she be too westernized?
If so, barring the moustache and the mass-murdering tendencies, you might be dating a little Stalin. Over-dominating TGs, it seems, are learning fast from too much exposure to many farang men and from watching too many Hollywood movies. These self-appointed queenies believe that their farang boysfriends exist for their amusement and accept no way but their way. Sometimes they are so wily they convince their men that it's for their own good.
If your TGF exhibits any of the tell-tale signs below, you may very well be in the hands of a she-despot. Unless you like having your life steered for you and your opinions made by someone else, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
*She makes decissions for you
Controlling TGs have the irksome belief that they know what's better for everyone else, and there's no one better to exercise this delusion on than their boyfriends. Such a woman selects the clothes you wear, what movies you'll watch, and what brand of beer you drink (the cheap one).
Some go a little further, making you adapt to whatever fad diet she heard about. She'll suggest, by which I mean decree, what you should or shouldn't eat, like fat, alcohol, or anything that is not Thai.
*She chooses your friends
Some TGs see themselves in an epic battle with a man's friends -specially the farang ones from BKKTONITE. Your bros are viewed as competitors for your time and as powerful influences on your behavior. Controlling TGs see it as their duty to limit your exposure to such threats to her queendom.
As a result, she'll advise you not to see certain buddies. She'll call them "bad influences, " going as far as making up dirt about them. And if your number of female friends dwindled to zero since you started dating her, that should have been the first clue.
*She mingles too much with your few friends left and your family
It's perfectly healthy for your girlfriend to get along with your friends (after all she is choosing them for you) and your family. What's troublesome is if she mingles with them more than you do, even making arrangements to see them without you. If all she does when you get there is talk to your circle, something stinks. She may be doing a little espionage within the people closest to you -- a good source of control.
*She schedules your time
She wants you to drop your hobbies and participate in her activities like watching Thai soap operas on TV. She decides when you'll make love. She tells you when you can go out, and when you can invite the guys over for a poker game (never). She makes you go with her everywhere and accompany her on shopping sprees. She always makes you wait, and never waits for you.
*She manages your place
Your toilet has now more scented candles that you care about. Your pictures were replaced by pastoral scenes with unicorns, and there's that unsettling smell of incense when you walk in.
Your TG has taken full control of how you furnish, decorate, and equip your room. She even unearthed and disposed of your nudie mag collection. And even when she spends most of her time at your place, she still decides what house chores you should do, which happens to be most of them. And she controls the temperature of the air-con which is always too cold for her.
*She always has to be right
That women are never wrong, that it's always the man's fault, is so overdone it's cliche. Many men have given up on proving women wrong and let them have their little victories. But a relationship autocrat has an arsenal of argument artillery that would make the Pentagon jitter. Such women have long learned that they can control men by shaming them for their thoughts and actions.
If every time you voice an opinion, she cries, "You wrong. You farang you don't understand?" and never tries to understand your views, she could very likely be using the shame tactic on you. Others cry strategically to get men to agree with them, knowing that most men surrender immediately at the sight of feminine tears
*She makes your budget
It starts slowly. First she insists that you foot the bill every time, even if she makes more money than you. Then she tells you you're spending too much money in a certain department, like drinks and eats with your pals, and suggests you save.
Then she convinces you that 50% of your disposable income should be "invested" on her new monthly mobile phone and bill plus clothing -and some to send her family back home. If you don't stop it soon, she'll be in complete control of your credit card.
*She plans your career
You're finally getting recognized at the office and started putting in more hours to get noticed even more. At the same time, your girlfriend starts the nagging. "You're not spending enough time with me, " she says. Worse, she encourages you to quit your job, or not work as much in order to be with her.
*She calls you all the time & expects you to answer each time
Does your TG rings you up 15 times per day, and it's not just for idle chit-chat? Does she ask you what you're doing, where you are? if you have eaten already? who you're with and where you're going next with each call? Houston, we have a tyrant.
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If you can relate to 3 of the signs above, beware of what is to come if you really go long term with her. 4 of them, well, as consolation we could say that the beast in you has been tamed. 5 or more, please leave an address so that we can send you a Christmas card every year.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:13 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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Oz
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Far too much posting at GT! Maybe its not the real Smegma?
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:21 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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Triyclops
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That's why God invented ST...
Honest. 
Been there done it and never ever want to go back and do it again...
TC...
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 8:23 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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Smegma
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Quote: from NaughtiusMaximus on 8:20 pm on Nov. 26, 2003
you need to get out more.
Even more?!
I do not remember the last time I stayed home since 8pm until next day.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 8:25 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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ringthebells
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and whe the bug bites??
smegma, you are talking about a girlfriend?? how about a wife?? what will she do??
rtb
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:26 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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Smegma
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For chapter 2 (the wife), I will have to consult with Krypto. I have no first hand experience with TGs as wives.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:29 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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Oz
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I could probably post a list of other Married to TG Members but I think it may entail too much personel risk!!!!
Going back to the original post, I think I remember signing something like that once long, long ago!
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:35 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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NaughtiusMaximus
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<how about a wife?? what will she do?? >
As she is told.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 8:36 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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JackRabbit
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JackRabbit present...
Smegma, Your list applies really good...to my last farang GF a LONG TIME AGO !
JR
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:17 am on Nov. 26, 2003
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