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BigDUSA
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This is how I would handle the Thai family. I would give my wife a small monthly budget to dispense to her family as she saw fit. Figure $75USD. Loans to the 3rd cousin twice removed. I would make serial loans. When the "cus" paid me back, I would be willing to make the next loan. If he doesn't pay the family would put pressure on him to repay as the money spigot would be turned off until he paid up. I would only make loans up to $500USD.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:56 pm on Jan. 15, 2005
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Mr Alan
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Quote: from The Machine on 6:13 pm on Jan. 15, 2005
Yeah Thais lie but so do I as do all westerners.
It not just a simple question of lying, but the "saving face" thing that is more common in Thailand than in the West. But it is not just Thailand, but most of Asia and the Middle East (among others).
Obviously, a westerner may not want to admit they cheated on their spouse while they are still married (because it might ruin the marriage), but if the marriage is over, they are more likely to admit what actually happened than a Thai would admit it.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 8:00 pm on Jan. 15, 2005
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CalEden
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Denny you haven't read "Thailand Fever". 5555!
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:01 pm on Jan. 15, 2005
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CalEden
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Quote: from Mr Alan on 4:54 pm on Jan. 16, 2005
Obviously, a westerner may not want to admit they cheated on their spouse while they are still married (because it might ruin the marriage), but if the marriage is over, they are more likely to admit what actually happened than a Thai would admit it.
This is usually a tactic to hurt the other spouse and is generally a female tactic.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 8:06 pm on Jan. 15, 2005
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BigDUSA
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Quote: from CalEden on 7:55 pm on Jan. 16, 2005
Denny you haven't read "Thailand Fever". 5555!
Not yet, I plan on buying it next month when I'm in Pattaya.
With a Thai women your in for a nickel, your in for a dollar with the family. What I wrote is IMHO the only sane way I could handle the money demands from the family.
BTW I did this with the losers in my family. : ( : (
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 11:43 pm on Jan. 15, 2005
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Frank La Rue
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"So ya wanna marry your Thai hottie"
Follow the reality show in "Travels With Frank - The Sequel"
Next posting on on a PC near you - soon
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 2:11 pm on May 12, 2005
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Ballsburstin
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chilli,
I bought the book last year and left it out on the table for my TGF to read, lol! Based on her background, I think she was already aware of some of the farang behavior described in the book. But knowing how farangs think doesn't appear to make it any easier for her to deal with the family pressures (and they are intense, if subtle). Other issue is that since she lives in LOS, there is no getting away from the day-to-day culturalisms that oblige her to feel guilty if she is not providing for mom and dad, and grandma, and aunt, and extended family, and the rest of the village, and most of the surrounding province...
Perhaps she should take the book home and have her family read it, come to think of it. That might be a good introduction to the crazy mind of the "farang-ba." Then, everytime a lazy relative sticks their hand in my face for an offerring, I can point them to a specific chapter, lol!
Actually, I do as BigDUSA suggests, give a budget to my TGF and any "contributions" to family have to come out of that. Money never passes directly from my hands to them, though early on, there were a couple of attempts. If you start to hand out money yourself, you become an ATM very quickly... there will always be a lazy cousin or inlaw lurking somewhere in the shadows, so best to simply funnel a set budget through her. If she runs short, she just has to wait until the next month; her "personal poverty" becomes a strong motivator to keep the spigot to her family under control, lol!
- Balls
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 2:26 pm on May 12, 2005
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barrafish
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Quote: from BigDUSA on 7:50 am on Jan. 16, 2005
This is how I would handle the Thai family. I would give my wife a small monthly budget to dispense to her family as she saw fit.
I like your simple logic, makes good sense.
Barra
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 10:44 pm on May 13, 2005
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dirty guru
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Firstly, go to the heart of their village stay a while, observe facts from fiction. One example was I know that at a market up here. I bought 6 live bass fish weighing combined 3.8 kilos.. I know it cost me 40 baht a kilo. say 150 baht approximately. I bought 3 kilos of high grade rice at 18 baht a kilo....vegetables 200 baht (a huge amount)....3 kilos of pork at 70 baht a kilo. Total 600 bahtsomething baht. Or about $20 australian...That fed 20 people who are coming over to watch soccer. Thais will off load alot of food and small amounts of money (borrow$ ) to family. Go learn those that are serial takers and those who are not. Some steal squid, or something incidental. See who they are.Learn that infact its very cheap in her village to live. Give her a small wage to spend as woman will on home and daughter,face, and kitchen.....show alot of kindness to family, but at an inexpensive way. Even purchase a small business that makes small thai money (if you must) Be avoid stories of wanting to buy back land for sister, and aunty truck need repairs, and buffalos need vet send north? Know how much the private school is (yes they have them)...learn the insurance costs on everything. Have her able to access the atm account on a limited bases. And be sole person able to take big money. Make farang/thai rules for house. Thais just walk in and around often unannounced. And never tolerate ''small talk"' on your land/home concerning their needs. Basically make it clear you are not santa claus. And know what costs exists and who is your obligations, and who certainly are not.......but be generous with food, and balance goodwill same time.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:36 pm on May 13, 2005
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