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Firstly good luck and congratulations. I reread your letter a few times and I think most comments are refereing to Young TG Bargirls! but you neither state her age or background. Both are important, an older girl should be more ready to settle down (not always the case but IMHO more likely), plus her background will affect her behaviour?
I do wish you the very best of luck.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:57 pm on Jan. 31, 2004
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Minder
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Rodeooo - A good post going here with some valuable advice already - hope my two cents doesn't devalue the whole neighbourhood but here goes:-
You sound pretty well informed already so sorry if some of this is a bit basic (i.e Bar Girl 101)
She is learning English - Great - are you learning Thai? Strongly recommended. (Is she from the N/E then her 1st language is actually Isaan/Lao not Thai!!!) Also try and get a handle on the Buddist aspects of her life - is there a Buddist temple near your home in the US that she can attend? Have you been there already?
Don't get too hung up if she "strays" even if it appears calculated - she tells you she has gone to pray at a Wat upcountry for a week and a friend sees her in Phuket with a farang - she is just keeping her options open to the last possible moment and will happily close them off forever if you come through - by her logic if you then dumped her because of the Phuket guy she was right to keep that option open because NOW she needs it...go figure.
"I make it a point of keeping her informed about what I do during the weeks while I am away, both personally, and jobwise." Ballsburstin
Recent conversation with my regular TGF on holiday in Pattaya last week talking about what I do on a normal week at home - TGF "....you want sex you just go to bar and take girl short time to your home.." ME " No, there are no bars like this (waves hand to length of Soi 8) in my country." TGF " Shakes head "There must be" I know she is thinking if there were no such bars where would all the "divorced" women work !!!
" This is re-educating her about the fantasy that everyone from America is a millionaire, and let's her know that we have to work hard for money, and sometimes things don't go well here either. " Ballsburstin
Again, same with my TGF, she has only ever seen me in "holiday mode" splashing the baht around. She does not think of me working 12 hours a day and answering to others. Also compared to anyone she knows I am "rich" - and even I watch enough TV to know that you Yanks are all filthy rich, live in big double storey houses and drive huge cars - Balls "Khun ruay maak!" why you "go hock?"
Rodeo000 good luck with it all.........
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 7:58 pm on Jan. 31, 2004
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Rodeoooo
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Well boys, thanx a million
Glad I didnt get flamed too much
I may be wrong, but I have not seen a thread
containing the stuff we are talking about and I really appreciat the input, good & bad, positive or negitive.
So, a little more info
The Little lady is 26, 2 kids 4 & 6
(we have talked about them, mom is taking care of them)
she wants them to be "thai" and not come with her for a while
i am more than open to bringing them if it works and when she wants
I have only known her since Nov '03, just a couple of months. Her story (which I tend to believe) is that she worked in the business for only @ 3 months. Will be contacting the PI to check things also.
Have spent a total of 2 weeks with her. However we do talk 2 times aday. Her english is @ 80%, and we both agreed that it is faster to get her english up to speed. I will be learning thai, but first I have to untrain my mind cuz it thinks in english and spanish, and thai just doesnt click yet!
She wanted me to marry her and her move back upcountry and come when I could. It was my choice to bring her here. So far, her words match her actions...
Couple of things:
Dowery- have read the threads and she and I have talked and the figure of 40-50,000 bhat is what she thinks will work
(Mom lives in LOS, dad is remarried and lives in burma)
Pre-nep- from what I hear from my ex-mob Las Vegas attorney ( really guys!), if she can read and write english, has been here a while, and has her own attorney, and we document the facts, it should be pretty bullit proof
However, I will be contacting the brother re: other options
Commmunication: we do talk every day, and I have a translator in California, a thai lady here 10 years, that I send her long emails and she responds in thai then back to me in english. So far, we are on the same page.
My worst case scenerio is that it lasts a short while and she goes home. Financially cheaper than 1 year of P4P here in California
Again boys, addional input is greatly appreciated
I will faithfully keep ya'all updated and respond to posts
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:25 pm on Jan. 31, 2004
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ringthebells
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congrats, rodeoo
when is the stag night??
as for gifts, dowry. ask your GF, she will tell you.
post what she said. I am sure you will get comments if it is reasonable.
if she doesn't ask for anything, prepare some gold for the parents (= cash, but it is not the same as). maybe worth 100'000 baht. this way they don't feel cheap, but if they really need the money, the can cash in the gold.
you will have to throw a party for the community, just some food, whisky and beer.
also ask your GF what she expects to pay you for the family on a monthly base.
set her up with some job in CA, as soon as possible and she will happily take care of such expense.
hope that helps.
rtb
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 8:29 pm on Jan. 31, 2004
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thailover
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I to am in CA and preparing to have my fiancee join me. I think that the daily contact is very important and also would encourage you to protect yourself financially. There may be various options and you will need to find what is most appropriate for your situation. I enlisted a PI which actually provided feelings of reassurance for myself. I am also constantly networking at this point with people and resources that may make her transition easier for her. Good luck. I would like to correspond with you via email if your interested.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 9:17 pm on Jan. 31, 2004
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Rodeoooo
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thailover
would like to get in touch with you
i think my email is in the "profile"
if so, email me, otherwise, let me know how to get ahold of you
rod
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:43 pm on Jan. 31, 2004
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CalEden
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Rodeoooo, check your timelines. K1 visa's thru CSC are taking about 7 months, NVC 3 weeks, Scheduling interview at Embassy 2 months. That's about 10 months if there are no problems. I heard a lot are taking 12 months to finally get the visa. So don't book your airfare yet. Also alot of time for your TGF to find somone else.
If you feel it's right do it. Lot of good advice in this thread. Wishing the best for you and your TGF!
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:48 pm on Jan. 31, 2004
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Rodeoooo
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Cal Eden,
A question re: "alot of time to find someone else"...
I am bringing her a ring for Valentines day
and we plan a Buddist Wedding in her village
the end of March
Will that not buy me some assurances??
rod
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:14 am on Feb. 1, 2004
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ringthebells
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spring must be around the corner, there is so much love in the air on the forum today.
rtb
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 12:39 am on Feb. 1, 2004
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canomad
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If you are a USA member. Something I heard about the Visa thing. It may not be true but someone might want to check it out. I was told that long term visas were available for full time students. And that full time english as a foreign language schools counted. They are not cheap, but cheaper than say Stanford. (I think they started them to teach the aussies english;-) )
If you were to bring a TGF over on that type of visa she would get a chance to see what the states are like.
I would think that most TG would get very lonely in US. Cable TV has japenese, spanish, etc channels but no Thai. The thai community is very small. I have 2 thai men that work for me in San Francisco. They have never mentioned any place that they gather with other thais. Just to hear the language. One is looking for a thai wife, in part to have someone to speak thai with. I have another friend with a thai wife. He is very happy but she never goes out with him. I have seen her pictures but I have never met her. When we go for dinner she stays home. He says that she doesn't like to go out. My guess is everything is so foreign to her that she doesn't enjoy it. BY the way, San Francisco has a LARGE asian community with many thais so there is some chance for them to meet other thais. But if you are in somewhere else I guess that it could be very hard.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:00 am on Feb. 1, 2004
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