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Soi Magpie
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R/S = Relationship.
Thanks for your story and best of luck to you. I am moving at a much slower pace.
I don't have so much time as to spend a whole month. I am back to my home country for 2 weeks and I miss her like hell so I am going back next week hopefully spending more time this trip. I also promised to spend her birthday with her in Jan. I should be discussing with her on her stopping work soon cause its getting to me when we talk on the phone and she mentioned working!!
Best of luck to you and your attitude is great!!
Quote: from brubo1 on 7:36 pm on Dec. 8, 2003
What's the R/S, Soi Maggie?
My story is nothing new, it's been told a thousand times in these forums. But anyway, I believe there are a lot of guys out there that just can't get enough of it, so here it is:
arrived back in BKK last May for the first time in 27 years!
Always wanted to go back all these years but family and kids "got in the way". First girl I talked to in a bar in SC escorted me back to my hotel... Spent a whole month together. Back to Oz for 6 looong weeks, going crazy knowing what she was up to even though I got her an appartment, sponsored her and assurances of "miss you". (I think she turned into a parttime freelancer) The whole of August we spent together again - was a lot cheaper this time with very little accommodation costs, no more lady drinks, BFs and a lot less shopping! I think she started to warm to the idea of being with me then.
Most of September was spent in Europe (alone) and then back to Los again for 7 more weeks. During the August visit I got introduced to 3 of her sisters and one brother and unbeknownst to me (I was told this is a welcome to the moo-baan ceremony) we also got engaged. Plans were also hatched to fix up her parents house that was left to her when they died.
During October and November the "fixing up" of the house turned into building a brand new one, it should be completed by the end of December. Also during this time I believe my GF actually started to like me and she now means it when she says she misses me.
At this point I have to say that she never asked me explicitly for money - not even the fee for the first night was discussed. She certainly never asked me for money to build a house - it was entirely my idea to finance that project. During our time together I would quite often give her all the money I had on me to pay for something. She would always give me back the change, even though it may only have been a few baht. She also would tell me to stay out of sight so she could negotiate a "non-farang" price. She always gave me bankbook, passport, IDcard, ATMcard etc to take care of - I trust you, you take good care of everything!
I am sure that I know more about this girl than many other farang about their GFs because I told her from the start: NO BULLsh*t, NO LYING! I got to hear a few things that maybe I did not want to know, but I'm sure she did not leave many surprises in the cupboard. Remember all this was (is) a gradual thing and she was starting to stick to it because she could see I was sticking to my end of the bargain.
Until I get back in mid January we are limited to daily reports of the building process via telephone.
I don't know yet were all this will lead us. But I figure that even if this relationship would end in the near future, I will have no regrets. I have never been on such a high as during those last few weeks. Never been so happy. I believe it has been money well spent even if she "locks me out of the house tomorrow"!
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:19 am on Dec. 9, 2003
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Soi Magpie
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I sort of agree to your age correlation theory. The younger the girl...the harder for her to settle down fast.
I also think there is correlation between how long she has been in the scene and how successfully the relationship will be.
It might be easier if she is still very new to the scene and perhaps not so USE to the lifestyle yet.
Quote: from cyborg on 10:02 pm on Dec. 9, 2003
Bros, Do you think there is any correlation between the age of a BG and the chances of successfully pursuing a long term relationship?
Example, do you think there is a much better chance of having this with a 32 year old woman as opposed to a 22 year old? I imagine that as a lady approaches mid to late 30s she begins to realize that her days as a marketable babe are waning. Seems that she may be more open to putting bar life behind her and really putting everything shes got into making a relationship with a Farang successful.
Anyone have experiences or thoughts on this??
Cyborg
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 11:22 am on Dec. 9, 2003
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Just my 2 cents about relationships and age. I have currently been involved with a Thai lady for 3+ years. She is 42 and I 52. I tend to agree that the older ladies realize that their "marketable" talents drop off with age, because most men want young ladies.
Prior to settling down with this lady I had limited my looking for ladies to ones older than mid to late 20's due to the fact that all they wanted to do was party all of the time and it was mostly a money thing with them. Not that it wasn't a money thing with the older ladies either. However I think the older ladies were more caring than the younger ladies.
As mentioned before several times the age difference has a lot to do with relationships. What does a 60 year old man really have in comman with a 20 year old girl? Normally the desires and wantings are different, where as 2 people in the same age bracket normally seek the same interest.
In Thailand the conception amoung most of the women I've met is that 10 years is really no problem with them, as far as a relationship is concerned. Back to "jai dee" and being kind to them.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:08 pm on Dec. 9, 2003
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When I was married about 12 of my friends were married at about the same time. All were married to women in their 30's except one. Only two lasted and one was between a 18 year old and a 52 year old man That lasted until his death a couple years ago. The other couple is growing old together
Having said that I agree age is a plus for longer lasting relationship
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 12:22 pm on Dec. 9, 2003
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Soi Magpie
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I have posted a new topic which is related to this...hope to hear the experience of you guys again.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 4:50 am on Dec. 22, 2003
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cyborg
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Ac ouple of more questions concerning..."Love."
I had my full blast experience with Sam my BG in Pattaya 4 months ago and I am going back for more in a few weeks. I Have been in constant contact with her via email. She has refrained from tating that she LOVEs me anymore since I suggested that lots of BGs say that and in essence suggesting that I think it may be less than entirely sincere. Her response was that she knows I can not believe her because of her job.
Now that the hour grows nearer she is back to using the L word. I hacve also sent her pix of me here at home and she tells me that she would like to "take care of me here." She promises that she will be at the airport waiting for me.
So, I guess I better be ready for a high pressure situation there. I really like her and in previous discussions I have made it clear that I don't know how we could be together on a permanent basis. It is really hard to get her to t he US unless I marry her. (I didn't offer by the way) ANd LOS is too hot for me (Sweaty Farang) and there is no money in LOS for me.
I want to have a nice time with her but if she begins seriously pressuring me to marry her (Out of the question, we have only been together for 8 days so far) I dont know a non confrontatrional way of defusing that so that we may continue to have a nice time together. If every conversation turns to marriage and why not since I have came back to LOS just to visit her??
I know even if she is legitimate in her feelings for me and I understand that she knows she only has a limited amount of time to make a solid connect with me I cannot accept this "LOVE" crap and I have never said it back BTW.
I really like her but don't wish to hurt her or lead her on either. I have told her I don't know how we could be together. so far that has been my best answer. If the entire trip becomes a planning session of "How we CAN make it happen" I will be tempted to eject.
I am curious, do Thai ladies turbo charge their courtship with Thai men like this too? I suspect that BGs do but that upper class Thai ladies do not.
Thoughts??
Cyborg
23 more days until Cyborg re invades LOS. Mission objectives not yet determined.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:24 pm on Jan. 13, 2004
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Soi Magpie
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I don't know the answer really but I guess if the girl have a modern education and live in a big city like Bangkok, tendency is to date and get to know the person first before talking about marriage.
In the villages, I would think that its more likely to accelerate to marriage once they are feelings.
For a working girl, I guess if she has REAL feelings, she would want it to be stable so she does not have to work again and you can support her. Beside the financial needs, I guess one can see it as she does not have to f_ck other man for $ anymore.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:31 am on Jan. 18, 2004
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Soi Magpie
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A little update on my story. I did went back to visit her and we had a great time celebrating her birthday at Koh Samui. Then I brought her back to my home country. She seems to like it. I asked to stop work but she wanted more time. She never denied her love for money but she said she wanted me as well. Anyway, now is peak season so she wanted to work somemore and we both agreed that she will stop work on Valentines day.
Now ofcourse I am regretting it a little as I hate to know of her working.
One more thing, in order for her to stop working,I have agreed to pay off a loan she took from her boss on Valentines day too. I just hope and pray I will not become a sucker when that day comes.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:37 am on Jan. 18, 2004
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CiaoCiao
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Quote: from cyborg on 9:24 pm on Jan. 13, 2004
...concerning..."Love."
I dont know a non confrontatrional way of defusing that so that we may continue to have a nice time together.
Cy,
Your post infers that you feel discussion is necessarily confrontational. Not so. And it sounds from your long explanation that you may be subtly, though not intentionally, leading her on to not lose her.
Being honest, but with respect for her feelings, is what keeps things from getting confrontational. The longer you put off telling it like it is, the more you risk confrontation when you do. Honest discourse may lose this one, but better for both to move on - lots more apples in Paradise - for both of you.
Can't say how Thai ladies relate to Thai men, but I have found regular Thai women (though not the young girls) to be more conservative and reserved than Westerners.
Ann Landers
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 12:10 pm on Jan. 18, 2004
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hzink
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Quote: from Soi Magpie on 12:37 am on Jan. 19, 2004
Now ofcourse I am regretting it a little as I hate to know of her working.
Better get used to it! If you truly love someone, then you accept them for what they are, and what they do. If she has specific reasons why she works, and she mentions that she doesn't want to stop working, THEN LET HER!
Two reasons:
- It's her life, you are just passing through.
- By not insisting she stop working, you are tactically turning the tables. If she asks "You no want me to stop working", just casually reply "Oh, teerak, if it's what you want to do, I'm happy for you".
See where that goes. Either way, this seems to be more of an issue with your feelings and your emotions wanting to stake the claim of ownership, and thus being hard on yourself because she is working. Realize that this is how you met her, and accept it.
Harry
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:31 pm on Jan. 18, 2004
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