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Mel Gibson
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I must dissagree with some comments here.
Firstly the child to help look after parents in their old age is normally the one most educated,, either male or female.
If the female child finishes University whilst her brothers leave at an early age then the daughter would earn a much larger income and be expected to help support MUM AND DAD.
I have no comment on "sending girls out to work as soon as they have breasts" this is very uncommon and somewhat offensive as it does NOT represent the typical Thai culture
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:32 am on July 3, 2005
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Hermes
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Regarding telling at home in farangland what line of work the lady was in in case of a BG, then of course that should be left out. Why create a situation for the lady when she migh feel ashamed. And if she stay off the drink, she should be able to pass for just anyone.
However, in thailand she will NOT pass. A BG adopt a sertain way to speak, think and react. And the thai are VERY quick to pick up on that. That is one main reason a thai man never have a BG as a GF. Thai men use MP. In and then out. A mia noi for more longtime experience. But mia noi is more or less accepted. But no thai man would be seen with a BG.
Which also is a reason many thai wonders about Farang. Since so many of us walks around with one. In central bangkok this is not an issue, but as soon as you come in the suburbs it is. But the thais ability to try not make anyone lose face makes them not really tell someone this. Atleast not in the face.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 5:15 pm on July 4, 2005
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Minder
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People change according to their environment - and they can change back or change again as required. If she was a country girl with decent values she can change back. If you are ex-military or ex-para-military the same rules apply - it takes time to lose that look.
Of course Thais can pick the difference between a Thai woman with a farang husband and a bar girl walking in the suburbs with a client. Heck, anyone can - its all about attitude and demeanour.
Back in Farangland some will pick her for a bar girl, others won't - big question - why do you care? If she is the most important thing in the world to you why do you care what others, including your family, think? Some will accept your decision others won't that is the reality of a cross cultural relationship - deal with it or leave her in Thailand.
As to supporting the family - the children (male or female) give what they can to help the parents.
We are talking marriage here guys. I'd rather have a girl that insists on doing all she reasonably can for her family than share my bed with a woman "hard" enough to let her own mum and dad eat dirty rice and go without medical care just so she can have a new "Gucci" handbag every couple of months. Enjoy.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:37 pm on July 4, 2005
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bkkfella
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Quote: from Bangkoksexydotcom on 4:06 pm on July 3, 2005
I have not read this book but what you are saying is that Thai girls should support the fam???
That can not be more away from the truth. I never paid for anything thing with my GF we just got a new SUV from her parents
You say..."That can not be more away from the truth ?"
You must be a troll ! ! ! Or just someone who is clueless about how it all works here in Thailand. I doubt that even this book, as good as it is, could get you on the right track.
Your TGF's family bought you an SUV ???
No wonder you think the son should have the burden of supporting the family. The fact that you have the good fortune to have a TGF from an upper class family certainly has clouded your view of reality for most farang's with TGFs. Do you really think MOST TGs have a family that can make a 2M THB gift ? Right !
Cmon man, get real or keep quiet.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 8:05 pm on July 9, 2005
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BigDUSA
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I don't think most guys including myself would mind sending 3K per month back home to help out. It's when the hangers on think, I'm a cash cow that would stop the money. I would let my wife disperse the cash.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 10:48 pm on July 9, 2005
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Maco88
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And there's the question.. you can take the girl out of Thailand, but can you really take the Thai out of the girl. I mean what are the chances, under lets say very good circumstances, that they don't get withdrawal symptoms... everything that was good, bad & down right ugly about LOS?? In the long run can they really adapt to the Western life?
That I guess is something else the farang has to be prepared for.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:16 am on July 10, 2005
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Hermes
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Quote: from Minder on 8:49 am on July 5, 2005
People change according to their environment - and they can change back or change again as required. If she was a country girl with decent values she can change back. If you are ex-military or ex-para-military the same rules apply - it takes time to lose that look.
Intresting analogy. However a bit offtarget. The military have a learned and adopted mindset. The upbringing of a lady is just upbringing as well for a military. The BG way to react talk and behave is an adopted skill, as well as the military man is. Especially their mindset. Its plastered all over this site. You can take the lady out of the bar, but not the bar out of the lady. What most say thou, is that if u manage take a lady before she have worked more than a month or max 2, then there is a chanse.
What I have seen and heard of successful relations, is either one of 2 sets. Either the lady was pulled before she worked more than a month and half. OR it is a case when the farang is wealthy enough to spoil the lady, as well as he ONLY want a trophy.
Have 2 cathegories thailadies around where I live in farangland. In a village not far, we have a cader of former BG's. And they of course seek out each other. They mainly only talk about money, and how much they get from their men, as well as exaggerate a LOT. Common on internet referred to as when the barrage starts for why dont u give me nice gold same other farang..... and so on..... I also know some of the ladies who have and a couple who plan too clean out the bankaccounts and sell all that isnt nailed down when they reach the 2 years limit and get longterm visa here. And then go home to the boyfriend of husband. These are generally the former BG's.
The other side is not far from where I am. There is about 25 thailadies here. In an area called little thailand. those ladies was imported through marriage services mainly. And they are more serious, and dont even socialise with the cader of BG ladies. These ladies arrange thai days, with food, culture information as well as pursue hobbies and intrests of their own. Its a hilarious look when one of them around 153 cm tall come on a big harley touring machine. Hardly see her on that bike. Worked and saved herself to get it.
The difference in mindset is that BG want to have most things on a silverplattern, and the common lady are not afraid to pursue what she want herself.
However, for most farang BG are the ladies they are exposed too, and they are easy too meet. As well as their profession is to MAKE the man feel good. Thats their job. And so many fall for that. But never forget, even in marry a BG, then she still have the mindset that it is a job. They tend to get into many loops.
To mention one is that most BG dont like men who go to P4P ladies. And they often have jellous tantrums. But if/when they meet in a bar, then the man is there for P4P. Othervise he dont take the lady from there anyway in which case there will be nothing. As well as the lady WANT the business. This in turn mean that the lady who DONT want her man go with P4P ladies put herself in a bad position. Since the man goes with her, then he goes with a P4P lady. And this issue is something that have ruined many many BG-farang relations.
Leave the P4P ladies where they are, have fun with them and enjoy them. And if anyone want to have a longer relation then look for someone who is new, or even someone who havent worked a bar.
A relation with a thai lady is hard enough regarding the cultural diifference without add the mindset from a BG. But each and everyone is their own, and all are free to do whatever they want to do of course.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:21 am on July 10, 2005
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issanking
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do I need to get married ?
i want my TG to come to the UK for a holiday of 30 days what is the best way to go about this whithout getting married ?
any input from guys who have done this would be great.
thanks
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:31 pm on Mar. 9, 2006
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