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manowar
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Quote: from Gus on 9:52 am on Mar. 15, 2005
abrak
What I am asking is, if a farang is in a medium/long term relationship with a non P4P TG does her family encourage or put pressure on her to try and get the farang to sponsor the family in any way by saying family have problem?
This is a ploy alledgedly used by Bar girls and their families
Gus, in "normal" Asian families, kids are expected to take care of their parents when they get old. Now, in the wealthy families, since the parents obviously do not need financial support, kids then have to show respect by other means such as showing up at their parents birthday, buy occasional gifts to make the parents happy, do things that their parents would feel proud, etc, etc.....Now if the family is poor, and the daughter marries rich, then the son-in-law basically needs to feel obligated to provide. In most asian families, the son-in-law is basically a " sub-son" in that, he has all the obligations (financial and physical) to the family but not the entitlement or the family name/honor. Ok, so if you guys want to get serious with a TG ( which I strongly recommend against), then when their parents look at you as their "son-in-law", and give you all kinds of "needs and wants", remember this : they are actually quite disappointed that they have to invent a "sick buffolo" story to get you to help out. Knowing they are in financial needs, you should have offered in the first place.
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Posted on: 2:28 pm on Mar. 15, 2005
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cyborg
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Quote from Manowar:"remember this : they are actually quite disappointed that they have to invent a "sick buffolo" story to get you to help out. Knowing they are in financial needs, you should have offered in the first place."
Well said bro...that is the precise wording I have been looking for to convey this concept.
Cyborg
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Posted on: 5:04 pm on Mar. 15, 2005
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Ballsburstin
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waxhead,
I understand some of these, but could you spell out some of these other acronyms for the various U's?
"Our ranking for intake of staff would be something like:
first rate: CU, TU, ABAC, MU, SNU
next grade: RU, BU, HGK, etc etc:
next grade: KKU, TB, etc etc "
Inquiring minds need to know, and there is value in this for me at the moment.
- Balls
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Posted on: 5:08 pm on Mar. 15, 2005
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Gus
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manowar
Very eloquently put, thank you.
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Posted on: 5:28 pm on Mar. 15, 2005
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manowar
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Thank you Gus and please re-consider (very very hard ) your situation with the TG's. One more thing : IF you are a son-in-law ( or equivalent of ) and you refuse to help, the one who loses face big time in front of her family is not you, it's your TG !
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Posted on: 5:37 pm on Mar. 15, 2005
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Minder
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Gus. It is a true package deal. When you marry a Thai girl (good, bad, bar girl or not) you "marry" the family. If you are not comfortable with this then DON'T.
Even a thai family with normal moral and ethical standards will still expect you to contribute to the family as best you can if they have a need. And frankly, what is wrong with that?
And yes - they will have needs. I think some guys set themselves up for an eventual fall by appearing to be rich in every sense of the word from the outset. They throw the money around like water to impress the GF and then wonder why the family has such high expectations of support. My advice is to "cry poor" from the outset - in my own case it was the truth and did not effect the relationship. Enjoy
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Posted on: 10:04 pm on Mar. 15, 2005
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Riceman
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This is exactly why I broke up with Princess Noknoy. I was poor at the outset, but her family still tried to hose me. Than I made a mistake and saved up 40k to pay a land debt. Than I became rich and all the shit started. I should have been firmer and held out. Princess Noknoy was a great person to be around and the best f*** I ever had.
Rice
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Posted on: 12:11 am on Mar. 16, 2005
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Brocher
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Assuming that both you and your TG have a loving relationship with every thing else equally shared, what is the quid pro quo? If the TG's family is now relying on you to provide for them as and when the family needs financial assistance, what does Hubbie get?
Cheers
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Posted on: 12:13 am on Mar. 16, 2005
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Brack - it's an Asian thing.
Let's look at the Singapore model. A young couple get married. Both of them have jobs. Asian custom says the eldest son lives in his parents house - most likely till they die. Once children come along granny takes care of them so Mom can work.
Fast forward a few years. Now the Grandparents are elderly & need care. It is up to the children to look after them. A quid pro quo (role reversal) from when they were infants.
The system works quite well, remember Thailand has no social security (government pension) scheme.
Next door to me live: a set of 60 ish parents, their 3 sons - all of whom have families. The clothes washer runs from morning to night. They have a shower toilet that would have been right at home on the Ponderosa Ranch. In the states they would need a car dealer lisence based uopn how many cars are parked in the drive at night.
I guess what I am trying to say is: It's your responsibility. As stated above - if you can't handle that - don't marry a Thai. Or if you do find one whose parents are dead & who has no brothers & sisters.
I have been lucky. My wife's sisters & brothers have been able to look after themselves. They are city people - from here in BKK & none of them have ever asked me for a dime. Never been nescessary to play Dudley Doright either. Mom lives with us. Has done so for 20 plus years. She peels my fruit etc. & is no bother at all.
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Posted on: 1:15 am on Mar. 16, 2005
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manowar
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Quote: from Brocher on 8:07 pm on Mar. 15, 2005
Assuming that both you and your TG have a loving relationship with every thing else equally shared, what is the quid pro quo? If the TG's family is now relying on you to provide for them as and when the family needs financial assistance, what does Hubbie get?
Cheers
Hubbie being the son-in-law gets to keep the bride ! Do you know the groom's side ( you) provides all the wedding cost and dowry ? You are getting a "person" ( your wife) from the bride's family to keep for life. You have to compensate her family for losing a daughter. In the west, it's just the contrary. The bride's side has to provide for the cost of the wedding. It's like the bride's family has to pay the groom' side to take their daughters ! Which is more civilized ?
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Posted on: 2:49 am on Mar. 16, 2005
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