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afm171
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I find myself in a bit of a dilemma lately. I’d kind of like to write a full field report, to explain how this all came about, but that is a story that will have to wait for another time.
Over the past couple of years I’ve been putting the pieces in place for relocating to LOS. But a funny thing happened about a month ago… I met a TG here in the USA. Not the first one I’ve met here, but this one is a little different. First of all, here are her good points:
• she has a “smoking” body, easily in the upper eschelon of any a-gogo you care to name, complete with oversized enhancements.
• she has a very sweet, unspoiled TG attitude of “lady take care” and is a great cook.
• she is smart with money and is financially set up nicely – she’s just a few years away from paying off the mortgage on an 800,000 US home, and also owns a shop-house in BKK as well.
• she just gave me a blow job in the shower and then rode me on the sofa with her big tits in my face
• she seems to be completely ‘into me’ – she wants me to move in…
Now before you go thinking “this is too good to be true” here’s a couple of her not so good points:
• she is not very pretty, nope, head like a cinder block - though that is partly due to the next point…
• she is the same age as me – early 40’s!
• lousy kisser
Minus those last couple points, she is quite the find, no doubt about it. So now I’m thinking… do I change plans and set up house with USA-TG? It would really accelerate my own retirement plans, but what then of carefree vacations to LOS? Am I just signing up to be in a prison with golden bars? What if I just set up with her for awhile, and then ditch whenever I feel like it?
And then that last question really got me thinking… how is that any different from the average BG plan?? Isn’t this the very dilemma they face, if it is a dilemma at all for them?
The average BG plan is to land a farang that is financially well set up, who will take care of them, buy them a house, but they still want to f*** around with younger guys if they can, and may very well dump the farang when they cease to be useful. Love isn’t part of the equation.
And that is exactly my situation, with reversed roles!
Weird... I suppose to take it to extremes, I could marry her, get the house in my name, and then scheme to have her deported – as revenge for all the farangs who got duped in LOS. (Just kidding... maybe... LOL)
But seriously, I’m torn over this… Faced with the same situation, what would you do?
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:32 pm on Feb. 27, 2008
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tezza
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Not trying to sound cynical but are you doing a little ‘research’ for your next book by garnering BTF members experiences & reactions for this hypothetical plotline?
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 9:37 pm on Feb. 27, 2008
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DaffyDuck
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Quote: from afm171 on 11:47 am on Feb. 28, 2008
But seriously, I’m torn over this… Faced with the same situation, what would you do?
Wouldn't be in that situation because of the three negatives you listed.
Seriously, not to be blunt, but if you took the sex out of the equation, what would you be left with?
Whatever you are left with, at that point, would it be enough for you - i.e. despite her not being very pretty, is she the kind of girl you don't mind hanging out with among your friends, in a social setting?
Her being your own age, and not being very pretty, and despite asian girls holding up well with age, but how do you anticipate she'd look like in 10 years (i.e. what does her mother look like?)
Further, knowing what many of us on here know about how TGs get territorial and possessive, you pretty much will be able to write off any unsupervised trips to LOS, if you indeed plan on moving in with her, and/or marrying her. If you do, and you decide to play around, and she gets nasty, you would just stand on losing everything, or a good portion of it all. Is that worth it?
Lastly, if your ONLY reason to relocate to LOS was the availability of TGs (since the sudden, convenient availability of a local TG in the USA seems to be enough to change your relocation plans), then I have the impression that you have some confused priorities, or criteria, that you may want to sort out, first.
Just seems you're big head is being outvoted by your little head here - what it really comes down to, I believe, is the simple question "What do you want?", which seems to be the crux of the matter.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:32 pm on Feb. 27, 2008
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seajohn
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Quote: from afm171 on 11:47 am on Feb. 28, 2008
It would really accelerate my own retirement plans, but what then of carefree vacations to LOS? Am I just signing up to be in a prison with golden bars? What if I just set up with her for awhile, and then ditch whenever I feel like it?
a) How? You're going to use her money? I would not recommend this if you settle on the plan implied in your last question.
b) Maybe, if you're living off her. Otherwise, I don't see it. All relationships are a compromise of some kind: you have to decide your top line and bottom line, then what you are willing to concede, and what not.
c) Is that what everyone does ultimately anyway? Or do they try to make a longer commitment for some other good reason? I don't know anything about your priorities. Always have a backup plan. Back to letter b.
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EDIT: For now, I likely agree with DD in that, living in the US now, you're probably just happy to be getting laid by someone you think is exotic. Try to clarify and look at the wider perspective and deeper picture of what you want, what you will want, and where you are.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 10:34 pm on Feb. 27, 2008
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ringthebells
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what would I do?? I would introduce her to daffy.
rtb
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 11:47 pm on Feb. 27, 2008
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bkkz
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Take a quick trip to LOS and remind yourself of what will lose out on and then you can decide for yourself if she is exactly what you want.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:05 am on Feb. 28, 2008
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afm171
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Tezza, the only research I do is living my own life, just putting this out there because I thought it was ironic, and something that hadn't come up before. EDIT IN: though it would make a good plotline for The Butterfly Trap Part 4 (assuming I ever get parts 2 and 3 done...)
DD, without the sex, I would be living rent free in a nice house with a big titty housemaid and cook on call 24/7 - which is really not a bad deal - I wonder if I can talk her into not having sex with me?
I should probably clarify the prettyness issue - she is not very pretty "by my standards" which are ridiculously high - she just finished serving me dinner, and I thought she was fairly cute while she was cleaning up afterwards.
The 10 years in the future question has occured to me... obviously, she is already past her prime, but well... here is a recent pic...
EDIT: link removed, message me if you want it...
I suspect she will hold up better than most. She looks better at 40 than a lot do at 20...
I won't be getting in any situations where my ASSets are at risk, been there done that... not an option.
My reasons for seeking a relocation to LOS are multifaceted, mainly to be able to live a better life for less, and most likely with a nice thai wife in a 'mostly' monogamous relationship, with the widely available TGs always available for extra entertainment... so in a sense I'm already getting 2 out of 3 in my current situation, minus the TGs on the side...
Well of course, it always comes down, "What do I want?"
And I know exactly what I want... I want Salma Hayak to mumble because my dick is stuck in her throat, while the entire lineup at SuperBaby shovels piles of dollars bills over my head, but being careful not to spill my Tom Yum Goong because I'm simultaneously playing online Poker, Connect 4 against a lineup of Pattaya ladyboys, and watching reruns of Gilligan's Island.
However, I'm willing to consider other options as they come along. 
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:09 am on Feb. 28, 2008
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DaffyDuck
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Actually, I might expand the question of "What do you want?" to include investigating :
- Do you want to get away FROM something
- Do you want to get TO something
Mutually exclusive motivations.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:59 am on Feb. 28, 2008
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MickTheKick
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Some thoughts:
I wouldn’t stay in or move to any country just because of a single person… needs a full comfy package for this… You never know what’s next when it comes to human relationship and you don’t want to blame someone else for an unfortunate end in any change of your master plan…
Any long term relationship with any person in the whole wide world will inevitably lead to watching this person getting older… If the person in question has an inner beauty (whatever that is) everything’s fine, if not…
I’ve seen lots of very beautiful and graceful older women in Asia, but more among the poor than the rich… the latter have enough money on their hand to destroy any remaining beauty along the way and they have often lost any inner beauty on their way getting rich… Ha, I’m still a f**in 68er left wing Euro hippie… isn’t that wonderful…
Go for one (TG) or have them all? “You can’t have you cake and…” as the say… Any stability in life will cost you flexibility… and vice versa… Make up your mind where your own personal balance should be on that wide scale… people are very different in that respect…
AFM I’ve always perceived you as a smart, relaxed and warm hearted person and I’m sure you’ll do the right thing …
I’m still looking for the perfect balance on the scale with a falang wife who is a good enough lifetime companion (which already means something!) and my severe lust-driven determination to go off-road in my way of life quite frequently. The fact that this balance may shift along your long haul way of life doesn’t make it easier…
As a matter of fact the experience of 1) getting older (50+) and 2) having been living (include correct past perfect here pls.) in LOS for 2.5 yrs. recently clearly shifted my balance towards the flexible end… I don’t feel ready for the stability of any full scale retirement…
In fact I’m still very much into this well known tanned bending flexibility for my unfatigued stability… iykwim…
Edit in: saw the pic now. I retract that you are a smart person... Man, for a 40something she's a total hottie!!!
Oh, one more thing: do you know enough about her past? How does she make her living? She's not a black widow type of thing?!? This boobs have a story to tell...
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 1:43 am on Feb. 28, 2008
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S M E G M A
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Quote: from DaffyDuck on 1:47 pm on Feb. 28, 2008
Seriously, not to be blunt, but if you took the sex out of the equation, what would you be left with?
A great cook?
AFM, a man always gets sexually bored of being with the same woman, even if sex with her is great..... unless there is something more beyond the sex -in terms of emotional attachment; call it love or whatever. It is not one of those cases where "the devil you know is better than.... " (you know what I mean)... in these things the one you do not know end up having a greater pull, unless you love the one you know.
In other words, you need something more than good sex to attach yourself to someone for the long term. As Samuel Johnson said "marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 6:37 am on Feb. 28, 2008
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