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Well guys this story goes back to 2000 when I was lucky enough to go to LOS without my Thai wife.I managed to covince her that I was going on a company paid course,though of course not to Thailand.Anyway to get to the point,when I was there I met a really lovely girl who stayed with me for my 3 week duration.When the 3 weeks were up I left never expecting to see her again and returned to England only with her email address.
After a few weeks I realised I really missed her a lot and sent many emails to her and she sent many to me.I went to see her again in 2001 and at the end of my 3 weeks with her knew that I loved her.She had now bought herself a mobile phone and when I returned to England we sent sms to each other everyday,the record for one day was 14 each way.
For the last 2 years I have really grown out of love with my wife and told my GF this.I went to see her again in November 2002 and we talked about so many things and that I hoped soon she would be able to come to England (although I knew it wouldn't be that easy).
When I returned to England a few days had passed and my wife said to me that she was sorry but she didn't love me anymore.Well I was delighted because I don't have a strong heart and would have found it hard to say that to her.Also of course it would mean that maybe my GF in Thailand could join me over here.
When I explained everything to my GF she didn't seem too excited and I just assumed that maybe it was to do with the fact she never showed much emotion at anything.One day she sent me a text message saying that could I love her like a friend only?Then she turned her mobile off and kept it off.I felt really sick to my stomach about this and sent an email to her asking her to explain everything but she didn't answer with any clarity.
Well I was very sad as you can imagine but thought that was that.Then 1 week later she sent me an sms saying 'how are you'? and giving me her new mobile number.I called her and asked her what was happening but she was very dismissive and wouldn't answer any of my questions.The next 2 days she sms me and said would I agree to only love her like a friend and eventually, probably not wisely because my heart hurt a lot, I agreed.
Since then she has sms me a lot of times,today she sent me 8 messages in 1 hour.She doesn't sign off with love and then her name anymore but she says she misses me and cares for me and I will always be in her heart.I am 99% sure that she hasn't got another guy there because if she did have she could have only met him 2 weeks after I returned home.I am sure she still loves me so have any of you guys got any answers for me?Thanks for your help.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:46 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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Chompoo
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Ouch. I think you're playing a very dangerous game.
This is my interpretation of what happened, knowing whatever financial exchanges you've made (including just gifts) would help, but I can understand you keeping that private.
You met a girl who was looking for adventure, a little fun, just something different. You, a farang (regardless of whether you were handome or charming), were exciting (and rich) and she probably enjoyed your time together. There is a good chance she was looking for short-term or long-term financial compensation from you, maybe through direct immediate payments or maybe through just having you as a backup.
IMO, she probably never loved you and you were "safe" because you were married. Now that you are no longer safe, she is afraid that you might follow through on all the romantic nothings you've said to her. She doesn't want to settle down with you, and if she did it would only be as a second choice (she's still waiting for her dream to come along).
I think you should realize that nothing real will probably ever come from this relationship. Treat it as a little fling and continue to see her if you can control your heart.
Be assured that there are many, many girls just like this one and you are now free to find one who really wants to be with you.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 5:00 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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sukhumvit boy
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Thanks for your answer Chompoo.Your comments made a lot of sense but if she doesn't want to settle down with me then why keep in contact so often?I would have thought now would be the time to end it all as she knows she won't be able to get any more money from me As for financial exchanges I never gave her much,just paid for the time I was with her and sent her a one off payment of 25,000 baht.Also she was a working girl,forgot to mention that but don't know if it has any relevence.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 5:27 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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Chompoo
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You might want to clarify what you mean by working girl. Most of us would take that to mean "prostitute", but I don't think that's what you meant, right?
I think she thinks you're a nice guy and pleasant to be around. Having friends and contacts, especially ones who are jai dee, is very Thai and acts as a social and financial safety net. It may be that someday her dreams of finding the guy who sets her heart aflame and that can support her will fade; then you'll be back in the picture.
But I don't think you really want to wait for that, do you? Enjoy the memories you had and move on with no hard feelings.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 5:41 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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Chompoo
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Then count yourself lucky that you found an honest girl who is not trying to screw with your emotions and cheat you out of your money. Hopefully, she can stay that way in this very tough business.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 6:12 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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BigDUSA
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If you can move to LOS. There a chance you can change her mind. IMHO move on. Sounds like a honest women.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:10 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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MrJoe
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Sorry but it seemed OBVIOUS to me that she was a prostitute just from the description of events and I'm also sorry to say that the story is VERY typical -- which doesn't make it any less painful I'm sure.
I think Chompoo's take on it was pretty close. You were living a dream and you've come to the part where you have to wake up. Consider it a lesson learned and move on.
By the way, my first paragraph doesn't mean that all relationship with "working girls" have to be like this -- but they will be if the guy allows them to be.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:50 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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Chompoo
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(MrJoe, I had suspicions, but I would never assume that to be the case. Until the person voluntarily gives up the info that the girl is in the game, I'll assume she isn't, especially when it is an emotionally volatile situation. This applies to the board, but more importantly in real-life.)
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 8:01 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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MrJoe
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"...This applies to the board, but more importantly in real-life."
Did you really think I needed to be told that?
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:08 pm on Jan. 16, 2003
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