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macaler
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It all started a few years back. I met theis girl in a Go-go. She'd been working for a month first time. She was 24 at the time.
I come back home after my holiday and I of course gave my phone # and e-mail etc. She'd stayed with me for 6 days of holiday.. She was COOL!
She called me about a week after coming home and said she'd quit the bar, and had a job at a normal bar (for lack of better terms!! Serves food etc!!)
Anyways, I go back to Thailand and we stay together over and over. She's working away and I know everyone in this place. I'm not worried at all.
After about 2 years I finally get her a visa to come stay with me. All is good and she's happy/ I'm happy.
I never thought or suspected she's cheating. I know she was only into me!
After about 4 weeks staying with me, she started to drive me nuts. She was acting like a baby and just requiring way too much attention. I was just plain tired after working long days and nights. I had explained all this too her before she came. She knew I worked very long hours. "Mai pen rai" she said.
ANYWAYS... I sent her back to Thailand.
I went back to Thailand a few months later, She came to the airport to meet me and we stayed together. All was NOT good.
She was way too clingy and wouldn't let me out of her sight. I was trying to have a beer with a conversation with the lads and she was trying to get me to notice her but she was only being disruptive. Her friends were on the other side of the bar, but she wouldn't go chat with them. Instead, she was earwigging on what the Lads were talking about. She was starting to be High maintenance.
I told her one night during an argument that I was finished with her. She said "NO"
I come back home after the 8 days in LOS ( The first time I was actually HAPPY to leave LOS). She called me many times.. I never answered my phone, She sent me e-mails.. I never answered. This went on for 3 months. During this time, I did escape back to LOS without her tracking me down. A credit to her friends for not telling her I was there!
In January I get an e-mail from a new e-mail address. It was from her wishing me a "happy new year". Blah Blah.
I respond, not saying too much but just being nice.
I mean to say, she was a big part of my life for 2 years.
I get another e-mail I respond back.. She's being really cool again and proclaiming her never-ending love for me etc. etc.
I call her and all is OK for a while (3 weeks). I just had a nagging feeling about something. I had stopped sending e-mail to the new address, I was only sending to her old address, she was sending back from the old address. One day I sent 2 e-mails. One to both New and Old. She responded to the e-mail I sent to the new address.
At the same time, her phone mysteriously broke for a few days. She got the phone back and called me, but it broke again that night. And the next night!!
I bet you're seeing a pattern here huh???????
I like to think what's good for the goose is good for the gander. But I hate being Lied to. I had asked my tee-lak, if during our break, she'd had another man/sponsor/whatever. If the answer was yes, but it's finished, No problem.. I can handle that as I have not been a saint. However, She swore that there was nobody. Some men ask her to go etc.. but she never did.
Still.. the e-mail thing was nagging me..
She'd called me from work (A resturaunt this time). I was at home on the comp. I asked why she keeps checking the new e-mail address. She says in case I sent e-mail to it. I hadn't sent e-mail to that account for ages. Except for the last few days..
She told me she wasn't hiding anything and sh'ed show me the e-mail account when i come back in March.
I asked for the password, She stumbled badly.. She gave me three different variations on the password. tehn claimed she had to go take care of a customer and hung up..
I tried the e-mail.. All passwords were wrong..
I called back to her.. After about 10 minutes.. She answered the phone, I asked her what the password was as I typed it.. She still giving me the wrong one.
Finally I said OK.. Don't worry.. It's obvious She's lying.
I hung Up..
After looking at the password she's givin me, I figured it out..
When i checked the e-mail, there was ZERO. No trash, no anything.
This is starnge because She's just read an e-mail from me about 1 hour before. She NEVER has deleted e-mails before. NEVER. On her other account there are e-mails for a year there.
The e-mails on the new account were deleted AND the TRASh emptied!!!!!
Needless to say.. I have now said.. Goodbye!!!
I just want peoples opinion on this?
Am I being a complete idiot in thinking she's hiding something?
Sorry for the long post, but it could be longer.. I have left some minor details out to save your time.
Thanks
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:45 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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ABC
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macaler:
I don't think you are being and idiot. I think that anyone that has traveled to bkk at one time or another has experienced similar issues and feelings with the tg's. I know I have.
But .... I think you could've saved yourself a lot of aggravation and head ache mind you and not heart ache. If you would've hired a private investigator.
I'm not going to get into much details since I've posted about this so many times, but trust me it works. You can get say any information on the female you want.
And for a small investment of money you can get all your answers answered and then you would know one way or another. example: phone records, bank statements, photos', work schedule, ect.
It gave me all the information and answers that I needed and wanted.
If you want the P.I's information that I used, send me a private message and I will send it to you.
But .....
It sounds like she is lying to you and has someone else on the side from what you've posted.
Good luck and I hope that you can put this behind you.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 9:08 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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Marco
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You can check the numerous threads on the subject : she is lying to you and she has one or more other boyfriends.
You also have to undestand her point of view: you've already dropped her once, she cannot put all her eggs in the same basket (so to speak !).
Even if she loves you, you are miles away a not committed to her, she needs back ups just in case.
Or you are a back up for another guy !
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:13 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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Edge
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Macaler,
No, you are nothing like an idiot. Many guys hit this trap. Usually the nice ones!
The Thai version of love sometimes gets confused with the farang version.
Thai ladies often love their Thai husband but sell pussy and play girlfriend to customers from all countries for the money. The husbands often have no problem with this. Some girls I know have several sponsors, love them alll in their own way and could well choose one to settle down with. In the meantime they are selling at the same time! Confusing it is!!
Just sometimes a Thai girl will live with a farang and adapt to the farang version of love.
Cynical old goats, like me, believe that telling lies comes more naturally to Thais than telling the truth. Losing face by admitting that you have told a lie is shameful to Thais.
I'll never really understand this set up but it is good fun trying
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 9:39 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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pinga
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MACALER,
Sorry man, but you don't belong to the group of very few people that after a long-term relationship with these kind of girls are still happy cos of choosing the right girl without making a mistake....
Maybe next time you will be lucky. Welcome to the club, you are NOT alone, believe me. Have seen this for years and met few dozens or guys in similar situation....next time....next time....
PS
You are not an idiot. You got a nice time in your happy days with her so, that was good indeed. Good memories after all this shit. However, I am sure that every single guy is aware that these girls can betray us when least expected
....one guy posted this quote once....and I love it
"....you can take the girl out of the bar but not the bar out of the girl...."
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 9:50 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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macaler
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Thanks lads...
I totally agree with the lying aspect.
TG's, I should say this one anyway, has a VERY hard time admitting to a lie, and will do almost ANYTHING to get squirm out of it.
I do also Understand about back-up boyfriends and all that crap... If she told me, no problem.. But it's the Lying that I hate..
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:06 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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Root Rat
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As Pinga says "welcome to the club"...all part of the rich learning experience for residents and visitors to LOS alike. ÝBeen there....
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:06 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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Marco
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Macaler,
Nobody likes people lying but unfortunately in LOS it is a little more complex.
I am sure the girl does not think she is lying in the way you understand it.
It is part of the Thai culture not to say things that could hurt or make lose face.
Call it hypocrisy or whatever but this is how it work.
You have to guess by the attitude when she tells a lie. A safer bet would be to assume everything she is saying that you cannot check is a lie !
Anyway do not worry, there are plenty of other girls waiting for you around. Just try not to think in a western way when you are dealing with Thais...
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:24 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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Kris
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Macaler,
I agree with the bros. You are being smart in your judgement that she is lying. Just hold on to the happy memories from the relationship, throw out the bad ones and move on.
And if the bug bites you again, take ABC's advice and hire a PI to check up on her from time to time.
Good luck,
Kris
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 10:36 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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macaler
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Thanks for the support lads..
I was actually expecting to get a lot of "You're a friggin psycho" stuff from some people.
I have been to LOS about 30 times in the last 4 years and have a clue about TG's.
Thats why I don't easily trust what they say.
Every little statement means something in the big picture. If it's just a ST or LT thing, I don't care, I'm only out for fun. But the one time I did get involved I was on the swords edge waiting for a lie to come.
Anyway, If my Post does one thing, I hope a newbie to LOS who does fall.. I hope they take a little lesson from me.. If it acts like a duck and walks like a princess, It's Lying.
I will be back in LOS soon.. Anyone up for a few drinks, Feb/March timeframe
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:45 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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