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Arramsey
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I was recently up in Chiang Mai visiting with "Nong" ( please see my post on her in the thread "Bar Girl Stories " under the Forum Topic "Misc. - Girls " ).
It has been over 2 years now that she moved to Chiang Mai and I have visited her regularly every 45 days on the average . She and her son are doing very well , her business is now bringing in a monthly profit of B8,000 and they are both very contented .
However she totally stumped me during this visit by very seriously and persistently asking if she could have my baby !!
I have been very upfront with her from the very beginning ( and I reminded her of that ) by telling her that I was nearly 50 years old when we met and that I was married to a wife whom I dearly love and would never leave for anything in this world .
I cannot have a baby with another woman - because I love children and I would want to be with any baby of mine 100% of the time which would be impossible in this case . Furthermore , I am now 53 years old and at that age there is a good chance that the baby and I may not have many years together .
But "Nong" wept and pleaded with me saying that she has me for only 3 days every 45 days and she wanted the baby so that she could have some part of me all the other 42 days ( and also when I finally depart this world - although that was only implied ) .
I really am in a quandry and would appreciate suggestions from anyone on :-
(1) What I should do.
(2) How I should handle it .
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:43 am on Feb. 14, 2003
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griffin
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tit!
take it easy and get the baby if you really do her a favour with it!
i know in a western world this recommendation would be totally out of mind, but in thailand things are different as you for sure know for yourself!
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 10:50 am on Feb. 14, 2003
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BoomARang
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Arramsey - There have been other discussions similar to this but in every case that I remember, it was a BG or a GG asking who already had children of her own that were not living with her and who had no intention of quiting the biz. ÝAlso, I didn't get the impression from the previous discussions that there was anywhere close to being any kind of relationship such as you have with her.
I can't tell or even suggest to you what you should do because the issues you raised about yourself and wanting to be there with the child are issues that only you can deal with.
But, a couple of things I'd like to mention. ÝHer income is 8,000 a month. ÝIn Chiang Mai she should be able to afford a second child although she may need some help with pre-natal, birthing costs as well as longer term medical for the child although I know you are good for that. Ý
From posts you have made as well as other conversations with you, I have the feeling she is sincere in her reasons, because she can not be with you every day, she would like a child of yours to pour all of the love into that she feels for you and I believe she would do exactly that. ÝA more loved child, I can not imagine.
There are numerous children throughout the world who do not see one of their parents for extended periods of time and yet they seem to turn out all right.
Because of what you have written about your relationship and her, she will probably never even consider another mate and so never have more children. Ý
Some idiot, (I can't remeber who.  ) in the past suggested that you should be cloned, well, its not the same thing but about as close as you can get!
I hope for her sake that you give her a new and special part of you but for your sake, sorry buddy, you're on your own, I can't help you there.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:40 am on Feb. 14, 2003
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jagsbb
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Boomarang,
very warm post. It is true that western attitudes towards "planting your seed" is very different than that of Thailand's. If you love the girl, do it. I just wonder about your concious. You seem to be a stand up dude, I think you should sit with your girl again, and discuss the pros and cons once more.
Hope everything works out!!
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 3:13 pm on Feb. 14, 2003
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ABC
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Arramsey:
I know every circumstance is different, but I hope that you do not go through with this. You have stated some great points on why you would not and I think you need to stick to those principles.
If you really care about her, then don't do it. She can say she wants to have a part of you 24x7, but that to me is emotional thinking at the moment. Unless she is hoping that once the child is born you will either visit more often or maybe move to Thailand to be with her. After the baby is born then reality will sink in that she now has another mouth to feed, especially if you are no where to be seen.
So ..... If you don't plan on living with her and the baby and/or providing any monetary support, then I really do hope you pass on this opportunity to create life.
Read this thread: Want a Baby!
http://www.bkkx.com/cgi-bin/forum/topic.cgi?forum=12&topic=16&start=0
Good luck!!
This is not a flame at anyone.
IMO: people that think it's okay to create life without taking any responsibility upon raising that life is wrong.
If you want to give a gift, give her a box of candy or some flowers. Please ......don't give her a baby.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 3:25 pm on Feb. 14, 2003
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Dave
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Arramsey
The last thing you should be doing is having a baby.
Parenthood is tough enough in a normal relationship but what you are talking about is crazy.
Like ABC said, she may be wanting the child to take you to Thailand.
I think it is time you faced some reality. If you say you love your wife, then why are you so involved with another woman. OK extra sex is one thing but you are much more involved than that.
So think about what you are doing, not about babies.
Sorry if this sounds harsh. Time to shit or get off the pot.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:40 pm on Feb. 14, 2003
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nokna
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i posted a reply in the link that ABC provided,but a little more.
the first girl who said she wanted my baby was not serious in my opinion.
but the second one was.
ok,we only used a condom the first time we went together,after that no.
but i never came inside her.
but our last time together she begged me to give her a child and i admit i succumbed to the pleasure,even though i did'nt want to.
she was working in the first place to provide for the 2 kids she already had.
in my eyes it was good she did'nt fall pregnant,but she was upset thet she did'nt.
i was with a BG and that is different to your ciurcumstance.
you see the girl regularary,she wants a baby from you,it is a dilemna for you.
i understand POV and i hope you come to a decision which is good for you.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:45 pm on Feb. 14, 2003
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ABC
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Sup Dave:
Great point about being married. Forgot the mention that in my post. Glad you brought it up!! And .. I agree with your post 100%.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:48 pm on Feb. 14, 2003
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Dave
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ABC
The point I was making, perhaps badly, was that Arramsey needs to decide just which woman he wants to commit to.
Clearly he has been enjoying playing in both camps but few can sustain that level of duplicity for very long.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 4:54 pm on Feb. 14, 2003
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ABC
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Dave:
No!! I think your point is very clear!! And I agree with it!!
Infact, if I would've posted my opinions, then I think it would have been even more direct, which might not be good.
Arramsey must becide which woman he wants to be with and then can decide about the child afterwards. If he wants to be with his wife, then he should not have the child. If he decides to leave his wife and be with the tg, then if he wants to hvae a baby, then go for it!!
Again, great points!!
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:59 pm on Feb. 14, 2003
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