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nazimhikmet
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Hi all.
I am new here, and firstly i'd like to say that all the things i have read in this forum are very true. I agree , completely. U guys are very nice and intelligent ppl. I would like to give you my personal experience if you don't mind. Well, i have been living in Asia since 2000, but my experience in this beautiful country has begun not so long ago. I have met this lady in Singapore, not here, a couple of years ago, she was "working" in the same night club where i used to perform for few months. I am a musician. It started without any particular attraction or passion, telling the truth i have to say that honestly i did not really like her from the start. But she seemed to be interested in me, curious. Let me say that, in that club girls are making a lot of money (any comparison with BKK or Phuket or whatever is useless), and i was not getting a huge salary. My money was enough, that's it. Well, since the beginning she paid anything for me, food, gifts, presents. I DID NOT GIVE HER MONEY, NEVER. Once i went back to my country, i was very involved. She is a very nice lady, not so young (turning 31 this year) with a son, 5 yrs old, had before with a thai. Well we kept in touch, i really missed her, and 3 months later i followed my feelings and went back to Singapore, without money (not a single $ my friends!), without job. Well, she knew it, and took care of me for more than a month, spending all her savings for my maintenance! We were living in a small, dirty room, but my friends, we loved each other ever more. She was still working and overstaying... yes, she did it for waiting me to come. Thank the lord, i got a job after a couple of months, salary was quite good. So, with my great pleasure i began to take care of her and her family. I paid for her return to Thailand (after 8 months!), give her some money and sitting down with her we checked the amount of her debts. With a big sacrifice, i could have cleared anything in 6 months. During this period she stayed with me and my family (my mom came to visit me for few months), but honestly she had a lot of debts, and considering that i had to take care of my mother as well.... she (not me) realized that and one day she told me she wanted to go back to her "job"... because she was worried abt me. "What if you lose the job?? You don't have money anymore because you are giving me everything! Well, my friends, she was damn right! But i said no, i take care of you until the end. Guess what? I did lose the job, remainig alone with her in Singapore. Instead of abandoning me she started again and helped me with the money she was "earning", giving me the chance to search for another job. But it was very difficult because of the recession... so in July i went back again, frustration was filling up my soul, i could not breath. Well, during that summer i gave her only 5000 Bht, but not because she asked me... and in October i went back, with a new job. This time, Thailand, Phuket. This time same old story... after 4 months the company put in stand by my project... i am jobless once again. My lady takes care of me once again, when she could say "i am tired, go back, i cant help you anymore"... well she does not do that, she "works" and takes care. I opened for her an email address, she does not know how to read and write in english, but she can talk very well. So, how to say, i control her email daily and reply to her mails. She never hide to me that she is working. Now she is in Singapore working to raise some money for her, and a part is for me, cos i had problems with my parents, we had a quarrel and they won7t help me to go back (the job i got here is good for survival only...). But the nice thing is that i signed a contract, i will work on the cruises for the next 6 months, making good money, and i swear to the Lord, i will help her every month sending money and calling her. I really LOVE this woman, thats the only thing i can say. She taught me respect, love, passion. What else should i say? Sometimes it's too nice to be true. I just don't belive that she can be so special, mostly after reading all yr posts. I mean, it's so easy to find i clever girl who wants only yr pocket. Actually i feel so mean now, so dirty, cos she is selling her body trying to help me. I can't sleep at night, but i am so stupid and selfish that when i hear from her we quarrel cos i think she is taking pleasure from her actions!! How can i be so stupid?? I can't see my face in the mirror when i wake up.
Last thing.. on her last visit in Singapore she has met a man, quite old. He seems to be in love with her (only after few days!!). He is going in few months to spend the holidays together with her. Well, i dunno, maybe i am crazy but i fear that, cos she strongly wants to quit this job... she will stay with him, not giving me the chance to help her. I really want to stay with her. What d'u think??
Thank for yr attention and sorry for the long msg.
P.S.: i am younger than her, 27. Cheers.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:56 am on April 4, 2003
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thaiprivateeye
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'fraid a case of "ngern koo phra jow" I think i.e. Money is God, bottom line for Thais, money/security take pride place when you are from a poor background - and you cant really blame them for that !
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 2:07 am on April 4, 2003
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Fanta4
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and a big money in hand now worry about it or any incured loss later society as well.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 2:16 am on April 4, 2003
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invaderzim
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get another girl there a dime a dozen over there do a little resarch you can find one just as good
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 4:04 pm on April 4, 2003
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nokna
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i enjoyed your story Naz.
but you are a victim of my pet hate.
please do not post in a long post with no gaps.
i for one find it difficult to read post like yours,but i did persevere.
it is not a crime to put spaces in between text.
but as others have said,there are many more ladies out there.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 5:58 pm on April 4, 2003
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det
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She needs to do her job to support herself, her son and sometimes yourself. It is easy to understand your jealousy, and you cannot hide it from yourself.
Sometime, in the future, it may come to a situation, that she has to take the opportunity and secure her own life. Do not become bitter, because you have had your time with her, and you have had the chance to make a difference. However sometimes one do not succeed with one´s objectives, and still life has to - and will - go on.
You can make a plan for the future, discuss it with her and together you can agree on a strategy for a life together considering all aspects. Just walking around, hoping, does not make any difference for anyone!
SH
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:17 am on April 7, 2003
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chrisboy
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theres' this song that goes like that " baby... sometimes LOVE just aint enough"
was in yr shoes before. met and fell in love with a mamasan here in SIN (this places is way more expensive). she gotta support her 3 yo kid and parents, money is everything to her now, she said she gotta make as much $$ and she cant quit her job for me!!
i'm not born with a golden spoon in my mouth, and can hardly support her with my pay, thus i gotta let her go too...... LOVE SUCKS!
regards,
chrisboy
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 6:56 am on April 7, 2003
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nazimhikmet
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Thx buddies for yr replies... i have been reading carefully all the things written here.
Sorry for the missing spaces im my post Nokna 
Chrisboy: are you still in Singapore now? Hows the situation over there? Got some friends terrified and even sick... let's hope for the best.
Actually, i did speak to my gf abt my, how to call it, "project" for the future... i mean, a life togheter.
My intention to run a small business here, having a nice place where we can stay together and so on.
It is makeable, and in short time. I did show that to her.
Well she's agreed with me, being too tired of this job and of course wanting to cut down asap.
In her mind theres still the concept that i wuold deserve a "better" girl, cuz shes a "working girl" bla bla bla, but i guess it will be sormountable in the future, once she will realize that the "dream" has come true (hopefully!).
BTW, she has proved me her love in so many ways... then lets give it a shot.
Well, i will make money and in few months who knows... maybe i shall have the chance to see if this dream is to be considered over or not....
Honestly i think that the story will go on and on...
Stay tuned and thx 4 yr advices!
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:01 am on April 7, 2003
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Nick
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The real problem you have is that she has almost certainly tasted some good money in Singapore. Settling down on a low income again is highly unlikely to last.
Most of the girls who spend any length of time there will invariably never settle down to their 'old' lifestyle in Los. Many will try until they want a new pair of genuine Levis... then back they go.
A lot of the girls who venture there will suddenly find they can pick up around 7500 baht for a quick liaison with a gobsmacked visiting farang.. and then nip back to get another 5000 from another before the clubs close.
They all have their rough patches, but overall they make a lot of money... and keep going back for more. I know one regular there who says she does up to three st's a night by going cut price with anyone at 2500 to 3000 baht. She has been at it for 10 years now, runs a new car and has just bought herself a 3.5 million bht house near BKK for cash.
She is an exception, and admits she is addicted to the high income. The majority spend or lose what they make within a few days. The average turn around time back in Los is about five days max. If they only get a 1 week visa, they will either go to Malaysia and back for an extn. or overstay. They also change their passports like we change our socks... when they get blacklisted by Singapore immigration.
Don't want to sound too negative... but did she really 'overstay' to wait for you? Or was she just 'still there' when you went back?
My experience of the TG's in Singapore is the same as most BG's... 60% of what they tell you is fiction... the rest is what they think you want to hear.
Apart from the nightly scams and multiple farang sponsors/boyfriends, most have some form of longer term, lower return investments. This is usually in the form of a low paid boyfriend back home who believes they are only working to 'help out'.
If you are earning a nice wad now... put it in the bank. Or the chances are she will come back and spend it for you quicker than you can count it... then the cycle starts again.
On the other hand... I hope it all works out well for you.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 11:17 am on April 7, 2003
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nazimhikmet
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Thx Nick, thank you very much.
You are probably right... but i dunno.... my experience with my fiance tells me that something's different.
Btw i wanna try, i got nothing to lose. If we are talking abt money... well... i don't really care. IMHO we have to follow our hearts, and my heart tells me know ... give it a shot, maybe she's really valid.
If shes not... mai pen rai. I got so many strings in my bow.
Anyway Nick, yr post was very clear and intelligent. Think u r a nice person, and you ve been through this already.
Take good care and thanks again
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:43 pm on April 7, 2003
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