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cyborg
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Hey Bros, I have duplicated a posting that I have recently put under the Thai girls Reality thread. I think this topic is worthy of it's own thread. Us newer bros need to have the more experienced among us to weigh in and share their personal experiences and lessons learned. Have you taken a Thai girl to your home country? Tell us all about it. Ok guys, Lets talk about some specifics related to that extremely challenging option of bringing your girl to the US or other Western country. I understand that it is truly the best option to move to LOS if you really want to have a good shot at relationship success. For some of us like myself (I work in the high tech semi con industry and LOS is not a truly viable option for me financially) bringing the girl to the US is the only real choice unfortunately. Thus the challenges are maximized. Lets talk about divorcing a Thai lady. So, When taking this route what are the possibilities: 1: She moves to US, is a total BS'er never really loved you and as soon as it is feasible she divorces you and runs back to LOS with as much cash as she can carry. Divorce! 2: She moves to US, cares about you to some lukewarm degree, sees that there are plenty of other guys that are interested in her because she is a hottie and sweetie and so then she leaves you for another more hansum falang. Divorce! 3: She sincerely loves you and tries deperately to be happy in the US but gets so lonely and homesick that she spends a LOT of money calling home and then on trips home and then simply refuses to return. She genuinely loves you but hates US or other cold country without mom/sister/other Thais. Divorce! 4: She sincerely loves you but turns into another bitchy Americanized woman and you are not happy. Why did I go to LOS for a wife if the result is the same as marrying one here? You get fed up. Divorce! 5: She sincerely loves you and works hard to fit into life in your country and you then have an amazing life with her. You now have the most lovely, wonderful wife that is totally dedicated to you. You are a lucky, happy man. Happily ever after!! So I am likely not conveying anything that most of us do not already know. So, my question is this...since it seems so far more likely that divorce will be the outcome of this marriage what protections can be put in place? What is it like to divorce a Thai lady in the US or other Western country? How much can she take from you financially? Can she leave you and then get support? Is it different than divorcing a local lady because you brought this one in specially to be married to you? pre nups? Hiding assets?? Other legal strategies for when this occurs? Heard a horror story from a man who imported a Russian bride that turned into an instant money grubbing bitch when her feet hit US soil. She went to the police and claimed he abused her. She got a restraining order and now it looks like he will be responsible for supporting her. How f_cked is that? Got to be really wary of marriage. If I could find a financially feasible way I would prefer to move to LOS and simply NOT get married at all. When she turns into a bitch or I find out she is already married to a Thai or whatever I simply eject and say"NEXT!" Not so easy with marriage in our home countries though. Experienced bros please share with us.... Cyborg
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Posted on: 8:37 pm on Feb. 27, 2004
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hzink
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Can't tell you how your relationship, or your future will be, but I certainly can help you with ways of protecting your assets in a foolproof manner (seriously, no one can take a dime from you in a divorce, or otherwise), as well as how to save serious $$$ in phone calls betwen family. - Financial protection is easy (though costly to set up - but worth every penny). Essentially, you transfer all of your assets into another entity (usually a trust, or an LLC), which leaves you (personally) with no assets, no holdings, and nothing at all. Thus, in case of divorce, she can gladly have 50% of everything you have - next to nothing. I'm overly simplifying the process, but this is it, in a nutshell. - Free phone calls, through the wonders of IP phones. Pick up two IP phones from eBay ($60/each). The kind that work at no charge when calling each other, but require a pre-paid credit to call any other numbers. Get the girl's family a DSL line. I assume you have one as well. Put a phone on each end. Whenever she picks up and calls her family, it goes over DSL, and aside from the monthly DSL charges, there are no further costs. You need to find a reasonable, flat fee provider for DSL in Thailand, though (thy are starting to pop up.) Hope this helps, Harry
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 10:03 pm on Feb. 27, 2004
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BigDUSA
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cyburg, After reading your post, I want to stick my head in the oven. Women can't take anything you owned before you get married. Don't have children. Then their is no child support. Well written pre nup is in order.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:15 pm on Feb. 27, 2004
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hzink
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Quote: from BigDUSA on 11:15 am on Feb. 28, 2004 Women can't take anything you owned before you get married.
You're very funny. Her lawyer would find that statement just as amusing. A good divorce attorney can even get your bubble gum card collection from when you were a kid. The only way he can't, is if you don't own anything. Harry
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 1:57 am on Feb. 28, 2004
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cyborg
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BigDusa, Please bro... do not put your head in the oven. We do not want that. Does my brutal analysis of the situation strike you as an unrealistic appraisal of the situation or too sadly realistic? Do you have any experience with this situation? I have been divorced in the US once. I had been married to a falang American lady. (I use the term Lady Very loosely, much like my ex wife) I was married for 4 1/2 years. The situation was resolved by mediation. We simply decided to split assets and debts in two, and share them equally because we were both professionals. What is it like when you have a disparity of initial assets, income potential and even citizenship? I have no experience with this and cannot, therefore, comment from experience. Any bros been through this? Let's hear about it.... Cyborg
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 2:39 am on Feb. 28, 2004
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The Machine
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Cyborg Please don't get me wrong here but don't you think it is a little unfair to expect a Thai girl to uproot herself and come and live in the US and then after a couple of years if things don't work out you want to give her nothing for the time and sacrifice she has made in coming to live with you. I am not in favour of splitting everything 50\50 don 't misunderstand me here but surely you should have some responsibility for her. You know the saying you can't have your cake and eat it too. She would have devoted maybe her best years and she as a Thai women realises how quickly the used by date comes about and you want to give her nothing for that. I think it is morally wrong and it smells like what many multi national companies do in the developing world albeit on a much larger scale with regards to labour practices and environmental concerns.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 3:56 am on Feb. 28, 2004
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Smegma
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"Marriage is the triumph of hope over experience"
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 5:23 am on Feb. 28, 2004
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hzink
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Quote: from Smegma on 6:23 pm on Feb. 28, 2004 "Marriage is the triumph of hope over experience"
Me believes you use the word 'hope' very judiciously, here Harry
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Posted on: 8:15 am on Feb. 28, 2004
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BigDUSA
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cyborg, The answer to your first ? Yes. I've been there, done that. In Pa if you owned it before you were married, it's yours. Neither do I. I would go to a lawyer and pay for 1 hour of his time. Well worth the investment. I agree with hzink, if you don't own it, nobody can take it.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 9:12 am on Feb. 28, 2004
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TJ
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@BigDUSA >I agree with hzink, if you don't own it, nobody can take it. Allow me to interject, third-hand. Isn't there a factor of intent here? If her divorce attorney could prove that you setup the LLC with the express purpose of hiding assets from a potential future divorce, then wouldn't a judge order them seized anyway? The LLC would be an obvious shell company, unless it also performed some other task. Even assuming for a moment that it did perform another task, would it not be suspicious that this LLC had only one employee (you) ? Would that company of one person not be deemed the same as said one person?
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:03 pm on Feb. 28, 2004
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