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flik
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I've posted the occasional bit of advice,thoughts and comments on here to guys with a TGF, happy in the knowledge that I have 'the perfect one'. trouble is I haven't followed my own advice and have now lost her because of my own stupidity and lack of trust.
I'm after help or suggestions on how to win her back wherever I can get it, so those who understand these girls better than I obviousy do please contribute. (and to those who would tell me there's plenty more perfect ones or to get myself to EDEN and forget her, don't bother,this girl is the only one I ever want in my life.
I'll try and condense this as much as possible. We met over a year ago when my marriage back home was a sham and I had started to do a few ST's. Thinking no-one gets hurt and I get what I haven't been getting for a while. Then I met 'the one' that knocked me for six. Couldn't stop thinking about her 24/7. She's drop dead beautiful, but far more than that she's interesting, intelligent and basically perfect in every way. I had found my soul mate and wasn't going to let her go.
Didn't take long before I had left my wife, gone to her village and met the folks and fallen head over heels. For her part she spent the first few months telling me I should do the right thing and go back to the wife, saying she was lucky to meet me but unlucky that I was married, and never thought or intended to meet her future husband while working p4p.
Her story - she was only doing p4p long enough to build a house in her village and then she was out of it. I met her working internationally, where she could make a lot of money very quickly - especially with her looks. Despite her poor upbringing she had excelled at school, got a good job in bangkok, before marrying a wealthy Thai. Something she pointed out is unusual as there is definate class structure in thailand and they normally stick to there own kind. her husband turned out to be like a lot of thai men, screwing around and gambling. She put up with it for a while (like a lot of thai women do) but she got fed up of him taking money out of the small business she was now running for his leisure pursuits, then she lost the baby she was carrying due to a fight - and so left him for good.
She decided to work p4p just long enough to build a house for her and the child she already had, which is where I met her.
Anyway she quickly made the money she needed and returned to thailand. only to find the builders (issan farmers) had ripped her off. The house wasn't finished and the money had run out. I was in no real position to help her due to the cost of my divorce, and she fully understood. But asked to go back to work international to get the extra cash she needed - she wouldn't go unless I said it was ok, but asked me not to think to much and to remember it means nothing.
Tried this but I DID think to much and had a lot of sleepless nights, so managed to raise the cash needed and sent her home again. Shortly after this her child drowned, heartbreaking stuff. Not to long after we had the 'new house ceremony' which I was made so much a part of I wondered if I was getting married. (I wasn't - that came later).
Because I think she had got used to the money and because we couldn't yet be together, she decided to go international again after a few months, but this time as a mammasson. This pissed me off big time. I never had a problem with her doing p4p before and understood why she did it. But I wanted to forget about it and put it in the past. From this point on I started questioning her all the time and even asked someone on this forum to check her out and make sure she wasn't doing p4p again. The guy who checked her out came up with no hard evidence either way, but I confronted her with it anyway and she broke it off straight away, saying she couldn't believe I'd send someone to try and screw her and said it was the last straw.
I eventually won her back but it wasn't easy. She told me in no uncertain terms never to do something like that again, and said if I didn't sort my head out I'd loose her for good.
Bare in mind that at this stage apart from helping with the house early on and the the customary dowry I was not sponsoring her in anyway. She was supporting herself. Not only that but she insisted I go home and see my kids, and as (due to the divorce again) I was skint she paid for both flights (she came to), all hotel bills and car hire. How many thai girls would do that - a lot less than 1% I reckon.
For her part she is now fed up with how long the divorce is taking, and also points out that she was going to work in farangland, but stopped because she met me. Her friend went and is there still, making seriously big money, around 1 million baht a month!
So what did I do, carry on questioning her and check her out once again. No need to tell me what a arse I've been because I already know. Now she's finished again and says this time it's final. Says she loves me but no way can she stay with someone so crazy. She has one hell of a strong personality (and a hot heart) and I think this time I've lost her for good. If I could win her back one last time I know I wouldn't f_ck up again, but I don't know how - help guys...
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Posted on: 5:09 pm on July 24, 2004
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ColoradoGuy
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You didn't ask for an opinion on the whole situation, so I won't give one. But I will say this - people have lied to her all her life, and she has lied to them as well. Maybe she is sick of that.
You seem to feel that you really love this girl. If this is really, really important to you, then you should move to (not visit) Thailand. This is they only way she will be convinced you really want to be with her. If you're not in a position to do that, then I think you will just spin your wheels.
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Posted on: 5:50 pm on July 24, 2004
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flik
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colaradoguy
Agree with you entirely on moving to thailand. This we both fully intended to do in the future. I never had any intention of trying to get her to settle in farangland. For the last 18 months or so I've been able to see her every few weeks, and also spent some holidays together.
A lot of our (read my) problems have stemmed from us not being able to be together on a permanent basis. This was all set to change this week, we are now able to be with one another everyday (though not in thailand for the moment) - I basically blew it just as evrything was coming together after waiting so long
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Posted on: 6:07 pm on July 24, 2004
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Dave
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flik
Seems like you have been the way of so many guys who get involved with working girls.
It is pretty tough to live with a "worker" no matter how it is dressed.
Few guys can adjust/accept that their woman is screwing around. It is just unnatural to males. And it takes a long time if ever to put it behind
Wish you luck
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Posted on: 6:11 pm on July 24, 2004
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LocalYokul
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I might add that it also helps to dispense with the jealousy if you actually live in LOS.
I was a pretty jealous individual ages ago, but haven't had a good bout of jealous inquiries or the like since I've been in LOS.
Well, got some from GalPals, but eradicated that quickly...
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Posted on: 6:48 pm on July 24, 2004
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flik
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Not really possible to move to thailand yet unfortunately for me. I make a good salary now but would not be able to find employment in my field in LOS. The plan was to save enough over the next couple of years to be able to set up in business there. As we knew we could be together before then outside thailand we were prepared to wait
But her mammasson roll is the bit that screwed up my head, knowing that because she is so hot all the guys would be trying to hit on her instead of her girls, and worrying that she would give in.
I've had to loose her to sort out my jealousy/mistrust. She is now conviced that I will never trust her (as well as disgusted at my actions) - how do I convince her that I have at last sorted out my head???
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Posted on: 7:18 pm on July 24, 2004
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LocalYokul
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start by convincing yourself !!
seems you've not been entirely successful at that yet...
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Posted on: 7:26 pm on July 24, 2004
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ThaidUp
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I didn't realise that was the meaning of "Going International" in that case I am a jet setter with a few crash landings.
I hope there is not one of those 12 step programs where you have to stand up and introduce yourself. Yes my name is xxxx and I am an asshole (Everybody claps) 
I agree with LY, but the situtaion is salavagable. How about you setting up a small business that your TGF can participate and run that can be grown and later you come over to work in. This will keep her busy and start to rebuild your trust factor.
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Posted on: 9:53 pm on July 24, 2004
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LocalYokul
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did I miss something..??
why can't flik's galpal join him in his own country..??
now THAT would show commitment...
edit :
oops, I just re-read and see now, divorce isn't final, damn western women buggering things up for us...
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Posted on: 9:59 pm on July 24, 2004
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koolbreez
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You want to get her back, get the divorce finalized quick.
She has absolutely no reason to believe anything you say until that is out of the way. I personally doubt she will have anything to do with you in the future anyway.
Why should she? You get the divorce, and answer the why should she part. you might get some answers.
Of course she thinks you're crazy. You ok her working international yet you can't handle it. You had a beautiful
woman yet can't handle everyone hitting on her. That would happen whether she worked p4p or not. The curse of having a gorgous wife/gf. Get over the jelousy.
I doubt you will get her back, but if you have any chance at all, you better make some serious commitments.
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Posted on: 10:09 pm on July 24, 2004
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