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Quim
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In my humble experience, and observation, I have come to the not so profound conclusion that of the women we desire (which constitutes roughly 20% of the female population, in most countries, but more like 65% in LOS), most fall into either the Beautiful or the Sexy ('I really wanna f*** ya') category.
Only every now and then, in the all-too predictable merry-go-round of a life that we all f***ing lead, do I meet a girl that is both truly beautiful and genuinely sexy (f***able, Babealischious, I wanna eat her all-night-long, f*** me!).
We can either love beauty, or live with sexiness. 
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:36 pm on Mar. 27, 2010
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DaffyDuck
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Quote: from Quim on 11:36 am on Mar. 28, 2010
We can either love beauty, or live with sexiness.
"Beauty, Brains, Personality -- pick any two"
Yeah, I know what you mean -- ditto for me, there's always the decision to go for "cute as a button" or "sexy slutty f*** my brains out", while sometimes finding a nice hybrid, I usually tend to gravitate more towards the "sexy slutty" selection on the menu...
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 2:55 am on Mar. 28, 2010
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Buttman 007
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Interesting topic...
As someone who is both stunningly beautiful and amazingly sexy, I think I can add a few points with a reasonable degree of credibility.
Beauty is a very broad subject that is often detached from your cock and scrotum. A Rothko painting is beautiful. Architecture can be beautiful. A moment in time can be so beautiful it can make your eyes water.
Sex appeal is simply a state of mind, subject to the unpredictable, mischievous whims of your psyche (whether subconscious or not) and its ability to communicate those sudden impulses with both your scrotum and your hypothalmus at that particular moment in time.
But coordinating that communication is very tricky.
Frustratingly, the scrotum has a bit of a bipolar personality--sometimes the scrotum will remain sleeping, even though the psyche is firing flaming cannon balls straight down the spine into the delicate region of your groin. Selfishly, sometimes the scrotum remains asleep, oblivious and indifferent to the demands of your psyche and hypothalmus. Fortunately, a company named Pfizer has developed a little blue tablet that can awaken even the sleepiest and laziest scrotum.
Then, of course, there is the hypothalmus. While the hypothalmus is suppose to be in control of sensible reproduction, it is often bullied by both the scrotum and that damn overbearing influence of the psyche--an elusive, intangible, omnipotent power that prevents the brain from doing it's job properly. The poor little hypothalmus is only the size of an almond, and yet it has been given the nearly impossible task of managing sexual impulse, lust and the legitimate need for reproduction. It is not so much different than a legless midget trying to herd cats. Perhaps that is why sex gets everyone in so much trouble.
So...
Sex appeal involves the disorderly, haphazard relationship between your over-worked (yet under-equipped) hypothalmus, your lazy, bi-polar scrotum, and the intangible devilish influences of your psyche. It is truly amazing that we all aren't in jail.
Beauty involves more a more balanced, less chaotic relationship within your brain. The cerebellum can appreciate a beautiful smile, enchanting eyes, a beautiful painting, magnificent architecture, or a moment in time. And, most importantly, it can tell the scrotum to f*** off when it needs to.
Sometimes.
Sometimes, the scrotum is under the spell of the devil and wins.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:46 pm on Mar. 28, 2010
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atl
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Bman:
"As someone who is both stunningly beautiful and amazingly sexy, I think I can add a few points with a reasonable degree of credibility." 
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I must say, that was a rather accurate and funny assessment 
Me personally, I have beautiful at home thus when I am out and about my eye and my yogurt thrower are invariably attracted to the "sexy/slutty" type 
Kinda the whole you want what you dont have deal 
We all have seen them and certainly have more examples than we care to remember, but there is this chick at my gym and I am pretty certain she is Phillipino, as she has a latin/asian look about her, that is tatted up with short hair that she just put pink highlights in, muscles in all the right places and just has this look and swager about her that ooozes slutty sexy 
I mean the type of chick that would make you get on your knees and toss her salad and she just does it for me big time, BUT it might be a mistake to marry her 
I digress, but this is rather timely Q.... as Thailife and I were discussing this very topic just the other day 
atl
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This just reminded me about a friend of mine that dated this sexy little hottie back in the day and she had a tattoo above her pussy that read "Bad Boy Magnet"
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 2:06 pm on Mar. 28, 2010
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Quim
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Since I am neither stunningly beautiful nor amazingly sexy, nor, for that matter, a endocrinologist with a minor in scrotumology, I must admit I have no f***ing clue what Buttman is on about this time.
Last night, I was, as it were, merely ruminating about a simple truth -- quite self-evident to anyone who has played for anytime in that playground we like to call "LOS" -- that we must so often chose between a girl who is beautiful to the eye, but cold to the touch, and one who is perhaps rather less beguiling on the optic nerves, but whose slightest movement is enough to make us harder than what a modest man (like me) should allow himself to become in a place of public (pubic) worship.
And why is that, I asked myself? Perhaps, if I was a religious man, I might conclude that it was God's way of evening things out a little among the fairer sex. After all, a beautiful women does not need sex appeal to find a mate to impregnate her, while a truly sex-oozing hot pot need only be oh-so-moderately attractive to receive her share of semen (seamen). God's grace and generosity is beautiful and mysterious to behold, amen.
If I was of an economic bent, like our good Mr. Buttman, I might conclude that it is all simply the forces of the market place at work. Beautiful women can "afford" to be lazy cold bitches, while the rest of them cannot. If they have it, they simply sell it, if they don't have, they must make up for it somehow. Which is one reason why I am so very happy that the world is not populated with only beautiful women. I would probably never get my cock sucked again.
If I was more Freudian than I am, I might conclude that it has something to do with the simple fact that beautiful women know that they don't have to be sexy in order to get their "father" to sleep with them (i.e., us overaged, fat, falangs).
But all of this implies there is a choice involved. And I, being the pseudo-scientist that I am, have concluded, on nothing better than my own several decades of drunken observations, that some girls have it, and some don't. Some are sexy to the core, and some aren't. But this still doesn't explain why most of the ones who don't have it are beautiful, and vice versa.
I have seen beautiful girls try to be sexy, and fail miserably, sadly. To the point where I almost don't want to f*** them anymore, overwhelmed as I am by feelings of pity and embarrassment. Dolled up in cheap victoria secret tinsel, or up on some bar top tottering around half drunkenly at their best-friend's bachelorette party... I avert my eyes.
And then in walks a slightly plumpish girl, not particularly tall, but with an ass that quite literally demands your attention, ripe plum lips, and a look of the devil in her eye. Suddenly the sexual desire in the room is elevated beyond where it is safe, the sprinklers threaten to come on at any minute. I want to drag her off to the bathroom and f*** her in a stall. And the great thing is, I know she might just let me.
But perhaps all girls "have it in them," so to speak, but not all of them are willing to let it out. Perhaps all girls have it in them to be sexy, but only the sluts and semi-sluts allow themselves to tap into that dangerous area where the libido dwells, a place of animalistic simplicity, of f***ing and being f***ed, while beautiful girls are often too scared to go there. Perhaps they are scared it will make them less beautiful, their faces contorted in pleasure. Or perhaps they just want to continue to pretend they aren't sluts too.
Oh, what do I know. I am no doctor or scientist, like some here. All I know is that when I want a good sweaty f***, I am wary of choosing a girl that is too good looking, as she is very likely to be a cold fish, no matter how much pretense she puts up at first contact. While a less attractive girl is not only likely to be more appreciative of my attentions (great benefactor bestower of graces that I am), but she will have less to lose in the way of "face" when she f***s my brains out.
All that said, I still too often end up hoping against my better judgment that the beautiful girl in the corner might just be able tap into her sexy core. Because, forsooth, it has happened once or twice.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 2:31 am on Mar. 29, 2010
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Buttman 007
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lol
Quim--You are approaching the topic as if your observations on a particular girl will be the same as someone else's. This girl is sexy, while that girl is merely beautiful, and the slutty one must be that way to make up for her lack of beauty. As I read it, your explanation of the difference between sexy and beautiful range from God to "economics" to something found in a writings of Freud. All of those are valid points, but you miss something very critical to the discussion that must be addressed: subjectivity. You begin to go there when you speak of "choice" but you don't follow through with it.
You write:
But all of this implies there is a choice involved. And I, being the pseudo-scientist that I am, have concluded, on nothing better than my own several decades of drunken observations, that some girls have it, and some don't. Some are sexy to the core, and some aren't. But this still doesn't explain why most of the ones who don't have it are beautiful, and vice versa.
I have seen beautiful girls try to be sexy, and fail miserably, sadly. To the point where I almost don't want to f*** them anymore, overwhelmed as I am by feelings of pity and embarrassment. Dolled up in cheap victoria secret tinsel, or up on some bar top tottering around half drunkenly at their best-friend's bachelorette party... I avert my eyes.
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But the guy next to you may not be averting their eyes....
In my opinion, "choice" is everything. You may choose to think that one particular girl is sexy, while I may think you're crazy (and, of course, vice versa.) In this discussion, there is no need to speak of God, economics or Freud if we can agree before hand that the discussion is entirely a subjective one, completely dependent on a unpredictable variable. How can you say that God made one girl sexy, when perhaps the only one who thinks she's sexy is you?
The problem I find in your reasoning is that you never mention anything about subjectivity. You leap-frog past that issue, and presuppose that your impression of a particular girl will be the same as someone else's.
I think the real discussion is the variable at hand, the subjective nature of beauty and sex appeal. Why does one person think a particular girl is sexy, while another thinks she's the personification of a dog fart?
Sex appeal and beauty is less about God, and more about what's between your own particular ears. It's a state of mind, and that is a variable as diverse as our population. That is why I spoke so much about the "psyche" and its overbearing and omnipotent influence on our brain--especially with regard to sex. Some girls I want to f***. Others I want to stare across at a dinner table and listen to her laugh at my jokes. And others I just want to sit on my face and wiggle.
So, what do YOU look for in a girl that makes her sexy to YOU, rather than just beautiful?
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:12 am on Mar. 29, 2010
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Quim
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I agree, of course, that subjectivity plays a big role. And our individual (perverse) psyche. We will not agree on many many girls. Because it is subjective, and that's as it should be (or we would all be trying to barfine the same girl).
But when a rare girl is truly beautiful, or truly sexy, I think most of will agree on that simple fact. To say it is all just subjective it to suggest that there is no such thing as true beauty or sexiness. And all of us who worship at those altars know THAT can't be true.
But the more important issue is not whether we agree on any particular girl's degree of beauty or sexiness, but rather, whether we agree that whomever WE happen to chose in either category, they seldom overlap. That, to be frank, is all I'm trying to say.
For beauty has very little to do with sexiness in its purest sense. Its raw, chemical, animalistic sense. A beautiful girl might make me want to f*** her, because I recognize cerebrally that she is genetically superior, and because I was brought up to want to f*** beautiful women as a matter of culture. But my loins will seldom be on fire, as Humbert Humbert might put it. At least not for long or repeatedly.
What then kindles our genuine desire, our raw lust, our unbridled need to conquer? As you say, THAT is often highly subjective. For some it may be the way she moves, for others it may be the curve of her ass, for most it will be the way she tastes and smells up close, whether we are fully cognizant of it or not.
But whoever it is that sets your loins on fire, my good sire, I would venture to guess that she is NOT who you think is the most beautiful woman in the room, not if you can distinguish between your ego, super ego, and all-powerful libido.
Thailife has a point, when he says that where he sees sexiness he sees beauty, but then he is unusually polymorphously perverse, with little separation between his three drives. For most of it is not quite so simple.
I am constantly wanting to f*** women I think, intellectually, are beautiful, even though my loins are not stirring. And likewise, I all too often recognize that the girl who just shagged me senseless is, objectively speaking, plain or even unattractive.
It has taken me much work, and therapy, to overcome this internal conflict, and to accept that I should not be looking for beauty, at least not for it alone, but for a certain quality, a certain heat, a great fire in my loins (unrelated to jock itch or any other rash down there).
So, I don't disagree that there is a "choice" of sorts involved, and one man's sexy babe is another man's boob job gone amok, but my point is simply that we should all recognize and accept that beauty and sexiness are not necessarily related, because they come from very different places, and only rarely overlap.
And to answer your question, Mr. B, I find a woman who likes sex to be very sexy. I know that may sound a bit like a truism, but my point is that I think you can tell from the way a woman touches you, the way she moves, the taste of her mouth, the look in her eyes, whether she likes sex, and if I see/feel any of these things, they make me want to f*** her, especially if she wants to f*** me. It is the animal in me speaking, like detecting a bitch in heat.
And of course, for her to like sex, she has to be comfortable with her body, whatever shape or size or equipment it comes with. That comfort I also find very alluring.
I can honestly say that find women of all shapes and sizes (within reason) sexy. But I will only rarely also find them beautiful, at least any "classic" sense. And why that is so, is what intrigues me.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:44 pm on Mar. 29, 2010
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thailife
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if I sit next to a girl and my cock gets hard, she is sexy.... if I jack off while thinking about her, she is beautiful.... or is it the other way around? More wino wisdom from Thailife.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 9:13 am on Mar. 30, 2010
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DaffyDuck
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If only we could post pictures in this forum, so that we could share what we consider to be 'sexy' or 'beauty' to us individually.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:47 am on Mar. 31, 2010
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