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B Boy
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BigDUSA, yes I can make amove to Thailand in the next 12 to 18 months. Yes I will tell the person I am with but not now. My headis totally mixed up and I need time to think.
What I need to know is whether I am an idiot for even thinking about a future wit a BG. I also think I need another visit before making any decisions.
Any advice from brothers out there who have made a success or a mistake with a BG.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:44 am on Mar. 14, 2003
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invaderzim
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B boy sounds like you guys argue alot it prolly wouldnt be worth it shes got a temper in LOS you shouldnt settle for anything less than exactly what your looking for when it comes to a relationship
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 12:00 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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haam sup
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B Boy,
There are many guys who have been through what you are experiencing. ÝAnd there is no single answer, because the answer is INSIDE you.
Just realize that you are dealing with your OWN issues here. ÝAnd even though you 'clicked' with her, you don't know her AT ALL. ÝI hate to say it, but she could be replaced by any one of a thousand different girls who have that little piece of YOUR puzzle.
What's missing in your life? ÝBe honest with yourself. ÝAre you willing to completely change your world, on the chance that this possessor of your missing pieces is also a genuinely honest and loving woman? ÝDO you understand her culture? ÝYou had better, because I guarantee she won't understand, much less embrace yours. ÝHer bond with her mother will ALWAYS be stronger than her bond with you. ÝCan you handle that?
Don't misunderstand me: I really believe it's possible to find the right girl in LOS, and make it work. ÝBut it will entail a LOT of learning on your part, and a lot of willingness to adapt, and probably abandon much of your former life. ÝAre you ready?
And I know the sex is good...but I think you'll find that it varies from woman-to-woman as much as it does here in the West. ÝThe difference is that you have much more access in Thailand. ÝWhat makes Thai women so unique is that many DO NOT put up the 'hooker wall' so common elsewhere. ÝThey will accept your money, but if they like you, it will seem like genuine affection. ÝAnd it usually is - but it's NOT love. ÝA powerful drug to a Western man of our age.
In the end, this is really about YOU, not her. ÝYou should get to know yourself a lot better, and decide if Thailand is for you. ÝIf so, make that your priority, and keep an open mind about your love life. ÝThat way, when the right one comes along (if not already), you will be ready for the adventure.
best wishes,
haam sup
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:18 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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invaderzim
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hey I was just wondering has anyone ever married a TG.. brought herback to thier own country and managed to be able to continue with occasional trips to LOS for fun not that you dont love the girl but LOS is hard to give up..
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 1:34 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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yogibear
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haam sup,
A very well thought out inteligent response. Sounds as though you may have experienced the same enigma as B Boy?
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 4:53 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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haam sup
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Quote: from yogibear on 5:53 am on Mar. 15, 2003
Sounds as though you may have experienced the same enigma as B Boy?
Yeah, but it was wrapped in a conundrum, so I was safe...
haam sup
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 6:53 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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Ballsburstin
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invaderzim,
When on Koh Chang in December with my TGF, bumped into another couple. He was American, about 60, she Thai, about 40 something. They had been together 18 years, and married for the last 3 or so. They had worked out a deal where they spend 6 months in the States and 6 months in LOS each year. They were in the process of building a house upcountry, but purposefully a little way, but not too far away, from her village. This was a situtation they had both worked together on. I'm sure it wasn't a bumpless road, but they respected each other and seemed like good friends. So this is an example of one kind of relationship strategy that has worked in LOS. From the outside looking in, I would say it satisfies the needs of both partners, and is a realistic solution for two people that seem to want each other.
- Balls
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:56 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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cmore
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Quote: from B Boy on 10:44 am on Mar. 15, 2003
Any advice from brothers out there who have made a success or a mistake with a BG.
Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Ý Hey brother B Boy, welcome to the brotherhood. You are definitely on the right thread for answers to that question. I don't know if you've done this already but I suggest reading all 20 previous pages on this thread. There is some excellent advice here from those of us who have been, and in some cases still are, in your shoes. We'll help if we can. Peace
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:17 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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craigoz
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BB
It is a known fact that between the age of 40-46, is one of the most dangerous/lonely times a males life, particularly if you have been in or or coming out of a long term relationship, one which was not/or is no longer satisfying.
You are 44 and a PRIME candidate to FALL for a angel who shows you affection.
A LITTLE BIT ABOUT ME (It might help you):
Mine started at 40, after 15 years of a non-satifying marriage. Since that time I tell myself that I have found true love at least 6 times, which is very questionable. In reallity I probably haven't found it yet.
On my second trip to Thai, I too found an Angel (No. 1) & headed into the THAI ABYSIS, (always very vulnerable at that time & age), telling myself she was the one that I had been searching for all my life.
MY BEST FRIEND CONVINCED ME TO WALK AWAY FROM THIS FIRST ONE, (I MEAN A VERY SWEET ANGLE), TAKE A STEP BACK & THEN TRY AGAIN IN 3 MONTHS WITH ANOTHER TG.
"The best advice I have ever had"
The next 2 1/2 years of visiting Thailand were utter bliss & found many more equal or better my No. 1, in all respects, but each time having the foresight to cut & run.
No 1 is now just a very pleasent part of my life experience over the past 3 years , just like No. Ý2 - ......!!
AS FOR YOU:
My guess is, you have been in this other relationship for a while & no longer find it forfilling, (a very vulnerable time).
That you have recently trecked to Thailand (maybe for the first or second time)& stumbled across this angel with great looks who demonstrates a lot more attention & affection to you, than you have ever experienced in the past. "Dont confuse her attention & affection with true love".
I suggest to take big step back & really chew it over with your best confident. You dont have to rush into it, as she is not going anywhere in the short term.
Also being back at home, apart from her for the next 4-5 months should settle your mind & allow you to ponder the long term consequences/probability of success of this relationship.
As someone else said earlier, you will always be second to her mother & her mothers needs. This is so true of a Thai girl. "Firtsly you are her support, secondly you may be her love"
It is true that there are many beautifull/loving TG's who will make you a loving wife at some time in your life, if this is ultimately what you decide on.
Better to take your time, experience what Thailand & TGs truely are, for a year or two and then decide if you want a TG for the rest of your life.
You have time as you are only 44 and thailand has a never ending Ýrecurring pool of great TGs.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 11:01 pm on Mar. 14, 2003
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thaiprivateeye
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555 - had to smile, recently had a female US citizen call me up, she had been out to LAX to meet the long term boyfriend, who had been on a trip to thailand, she assured me she was a good sort, he was quiet, loyal, and he had never travelled much, but was only interested in finding something to import ... apparently he was in Pattaya "somewhere" ... managed to get the agent who had extended his flight, and a forwarding address from there, went and found him in "pattayaland" - we had a chat, I said your girlfriends worried, he said "Hey man ... I think I must have died and gone to Heaven, I 'aint NEVER going home !! " - couldn't argue with him - ........................
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:16 am on Mar. 15, 2003
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