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DaffyDuck
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http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2008/7/5/focus/21744660&sec=focus
Real-life Bangkok romances aren’t typical Western cliches
THAI TAKES
BY PHILIP GOLINGAI
The cliche that love eludes farang women in Bangkok is a malicious propaganda by jilted European men who visit the city to have sex with bar girls, according to a writer looking to set the record straight.
HERE’S a book to read to avoid the cliches of Bangkok. It is titled Bangkok Blondes and it is a collection of short stories and poems about Bangkok by 14 women writers (13 Westerners and one Thai) who are from the Bangkok Women’s Writers Group (BWWG).
“It is a good book to read before you come to Bangkok as it gives you an idea of real everyday life in Bangkok. And it pays attention to the small things in life,” gushes Anette Pollner, who is the coordinator of BWWG, which was founded in 2000.
Bangkok Blondes, notes Pollner, is different from 90% of the English-language non-fiction books published in Thailand because it is not testosterone-laden with Bangkok stereotypes such as a farang (Thai for westerner) falling in love with bar girls or a farang ending up in prison.
These books (My Name Lon, You Like Me? Even Thai Girls Cry. A Farang Affair), which are written by farang male writers, says Pollner, portray aspects (such as prostitution, drugs, gangster and prison) of Bangkok which are completely different from the experience of the majority of the Thai and farang population in the City of Angels.
“As a resident of this city I feel angry that Bangkok has been misrepresented in a very negative way,” declares the over-40 writer who has been living in the Big Mango, as Bangkok is affectionately known, since 2003.
When Pollner, who describes herself as a citizen of the world, returns to Europe, she is usually asked, “Isn’t living in Bangkok dangerous?” or “Aren’t there many bar girls in your street?”
“When I tell them, ‘No, Bangkok is safe’ or ‘No, in my whole district there aren’t any bar girls’, they don’t believe me because they believe the (cliche-laden) books they’ve read,” relates the farang who lives in Ari, a trendy district.
Pollner’s Bangkok is far removed from Soi Cowboy and Nana Plaza, which are Bangkok’s touristy red light area. Her life revolves around the Bangkok Opera (she’s the theatre director), National Museum (she’s a volunteer) and BWWG.
You get the picture. She breathes a cultured, cosmopolitan life.
However, she admits that before visiting the Thai capital she thought it was “seedy, full of bar girls, and you have to be careful not to get shot in the street”.
In 2003, while backpacking around the world, Pollner decided to visit the City of Angels for three nights and found her notions were false.
“My experience was against the cliche – farang women can’t find love in Bangkok. I met my lover here. And he was not a bar boy but someone I could have met in London,” reveals the writer whose story of that romance The Last of the Great White Lovers is immortalised in Bangkok Blondes.
The cliche that love eludes farang women in Bangkok, according to Pollner, is a malicious propaganda by men who visit the city to have sex with bar girls because they could not find a partner back in Europe.
There are Thai-based websites where these men write hate message against Western women who live in Bangkok, she adds.
Ironically, as the manuscript compiler of Bangkok Blondes, Pollner reinforces the stereotype when she include Jess Tansutat’s short story Butterfly Game, which is about how it could be frustrating for Western women living in Bangkok to find real romantic partner.
“The choices for decent men are limited here,” writes Jess, who is a Thai.
“There are several possible factors. Although Thai and Asian men are generally sweet and gentle, they can also be a bit immature and too feminine.
“The ones who are good-looking, dress well and smart can turn out to be the ‘sorry, lady, I’m gay’ type. (Farang guys) are spoilt. Thailand is just a big playground for them.”
Refusing to be drawn into a discussion on whether Jess’s story is a cliche, Pollner points out there are other stories in the book where various authors narrate their relations with men in Bangkok.
For example, Chloe Trindall’s trilogy titled Love Bangkok Style focuses on her romance with a poor Thai boy from a small village in Isaan.
So what’s real everyday life in Bangkok?
In Anna Bennetts’ Ghostbusters, it is speaking to the spirit haunting a farang woman’s new apartment.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:51 am on July 7, 2008
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DaffyDuck
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Western Women, complaining about the terrible stereotype of Thailand.... and how Western Men demonize them... Oh my...
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 4:31 am on July 7, 2008
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S M E G M A
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Quote: from DaffyDuck on 3:17 pm on July 7, 2008
There are Thai-based websites where these men write hate message against Western women who live in Bangkok, she adds.
Hmmm.... could they have in mind the same one I am thinking of?
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:03 am on July 7, 2008
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chilli
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"..takes place in 'ari' a trendy area"
if they refer to 'soi ari' off phohonyothin then it's only stone's through from 'sutthisan' thai gogo's & rachada's 'entertainment' a few block further out or south to sri ayuthaya's 'massage' LOL 
man it's everywhere & the further one moves away from 'suk' the better it gets!!
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 8:13 am on July 7, 2008
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DaffyDuck
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Quote: from S M E G M A on 10:29 pm on July 7, 2008
Hmmm.... could they have in mind the same one I am thinking of?
ROTFLOL!
I'm sure there's more than one such website... right?
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:47 am on July 7, 2008
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snpark
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isnt there a stop on the bts called ari?
i remember christy lived near there before
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:33 am on July 7, 2008
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snpark
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Quote: from S M E G M A on 10:29 pm on July 7, 2008
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Quote: from DaffyDuck on 3:17 pm on July 7, 2008
There are Thai-based websites where these men write hate message against Western women who live in Bangkok, she adds.
wasnt there something in the bangkok post last year about expat women moaning about what thai girls wore?
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:36 am on July 7, 2008
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