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Kaymanx
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Yvan,
it is a good sign that you realise you need to keep your head cool. You also need to answer if you are capable of giving up sanook in order to marry this girl. I am saying this because you will ask her to give up her present life. If she wants you to give up your sanook too, what will your decision be ? Mind you, I am saying this only because it is in this context that you can coldly compare your present life with the change you are contemplating.
What are you expecting out of life ? Can it not be achieved without changing your present marital relationship ? Just try and imagine yourself in a typical routine life in Thailand, maybe in her native village where nobody understands you and you understand nothing. After a few days of novelty do you think you will have the patience to put up with all the new inconveniences ? Guys like you and us who have tasted sanook, should be more strict in evaluating deeper relationships. We are here only for fun, the girls also know that. Sometimes some of us get into deeper relationships but at such times we must NEVER rush. Just give it more time. See if you still love her after seeing her perform a handjob or blowjob on other men. Would you still love her if she insisted on remaining in her profession ? Just as you would insist on continuing your sanook ? Yes, yes, Cool head is what we all need to keep. In any case, keep meeting her and give it more time. Test your own sincerity as much as you test hers.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 2:39 am on Feb. 3, 2003
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Big W
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This thread has it all, action romance sadness humour bitchiness....I love it!!
I have my popcorn, Pepsi and M & M's for the next installment.
I only hope I do not come home with the same dillemas as you Yvan, Only 11 days till i get there!!
WOOHOO
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 3:07 am on Feb. 3, 2003
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nokna
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thanks Pinga,made my day,i'm easy to please.
but you know how i feel about you and what i think of you.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:42 am on Feb. 3, 2003
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Arcadius
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Falling for a BG is the easiest thing in the world. And with all respect to the cynics, I would say BGs do sometimes develop feelings for their customers as well.
The vital thing to remember is that the P4P scene in LOS exists outside all the conventional parameters, and obeys its own rules. Imho, that also applies to the relationships which arise within it.
The problems start when you try to transfer these relationships into the 'real world' and force them into conventional moulds like 'steady girlfriend', 'wife' or whatever.
Far better, I feel, to keep thinking outside the box and try to develop meaningful relationships with BGs as they are. In the majority of cases, that will mean accepting that the prospects of a BG settling down as the little wife in farangland are minimal, and that if she remains in LOS, in all probability she will continue to screw other men for money.
You won't be able to label these relationships very satisfactorily. But they do exist, and they can be very rewarding. The only real question is: can you hack it? Ý
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 9:03 am on Feb. 3, 2003
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Simon WS
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I feel that many BG's are very decent girls and would make good wives. Most of these girls have fairly modest expectations, they don't even mind working, they just want a husband who will be loving, will not be a drunk or waste money. Too much is made of the fact that they are in it for money. Sure, but not many executive wives, would have given them the time of the day, if they had been a gas station attendant, either. Most marriages are a 'money for sex' transaction, though it is couched differently and is not so obvious. Just saw the film 'Catch me if you can' yesterday and couldn't get over Christopher Walken's wife leaving him as soon as she sees the going getting tough. So whether or not you are getting 'true love' is difficult to guarantee in any culture.
I think the problem is not with the BG's but their (usually) dysfunctional families. The girl sends maybe 15-20K a month to her family, which is much more than what her father or brother earn and soon they get used to just doing nothing and may even get into drink and drugs. Also, relatives have a way of suddenly appearing. You meet a girl who is living with one sister and a widowed mother and you feel that you don't mind supporting them. Within no time, uncles, aunts, and cousins start appearing out of nowhere. Many of these girls are simple and not high IQ and are easily manipulated by their family in an affection/acceptance for money kind of blackmail.
As a way of helping the girl, I always tryto increase the girl's awareness in two areas. First is safer sex and the other is finances. It takes a minute to draw a graph showing her income when she will be 30, 35 and 40 and the impact is awesome. Perhaps for the first time she starts thinking ahead.
I know that all the guys here have their hearts in the right place and the point I guess I am making is that even without getting into marriage / LT affairs, we can help the girls by giving them small dozes of relevant education.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 9:52 am on Feb. 3, 2003
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Lefty
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Yvan,
It is easy to be cynical about TBGs and to see all of them as being simply interested in you for your money. Unfortunately having been just informed tonight that 'my' TGF sees me as little more than a ready source of funds I guess it is mostly true. The fault is ours though since we have been warned but we always want to believe that our TGF is different. This does not mean that your girl did not enjoy your company or has even developed some tender feelings for you. It is just that we are all basically interchangeable for TBGs so long as we meet their minimum requirements (money, fun to be with, treat them well etc).
The real question is whether your current marriage is worth salvaging or not. If there is no hope for it then why not simply go back to Thailand and try living with her? Certainly you would risk a lot (money, job etc) and the chance of a successful outcome would be low but if you don't you will always wonder if it would have worked. Perhaps if I had done that my outcome would have been different, perhaps not but now I will never know. At least by attempting this you will have some happy memories to counter the pain that will almost certainly be waiting for you there when it all falls apart. Most of us will survive that, perhaps a little wiser, at least until the next time some TG steals your heart away...
I think it is pointless to try bringing her back to France unless she really wants to go (and I think from my limited experience this is unlikely). Better that you go to her and spend as much time as you can to get to know her better in Thailand. If it really is mutual love and not simply her desire for some financial security (and perhaps emotional security with no strings attached) then you will find a way to make it work. If going to Thailand for a considerable period is not possible then walk away - trying to maintain a long-distant relationship with a TGF will only prolong the agony. You really don't want to go down that particular path - it will only destroy you!
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 11:41 am on Feb. 3, 2003
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Chompoo
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To Ivan:
This is nothing more than infatuation. There is almost zero chance that this girl alone is worth all this agony and you should forget about her. But you need to re-evaluate your life and figure out what you want. Then you will have the freedom to spend more time finding the right one (whether BG or not) for you. Yes, 'B' is special, but there are 100,000 others that are also special and any number of them will most likely make a better long-term companion for you.
To bangkropolis2020 et al.:
Yvan's infatuation is not unusual and I'm sure you all know that. Many guys go through at least one major transformation like this later in life and it takes some getting used to. Not that I'm against mocking people, in general, and in this case a little mocking doesn't hurt if it toughens Yvan up a little bit.
To sukhumvit boy:
I have been back 3 times to see a girl who I really fell in love with and she says she feels the same way I do.She always sends sms to me and emails too.But if I am honest and I am sure the same goes for all you other guys next time I go to see her and I say ok we love each other this time there is no need to give you any money she would soon leave!
She says "Hi", by the way. 
Idle thought of the day
Wow, I really need to learn French. I would really enjoy being able to speak a language where I could actually go up to a girl and say: "You are most beautiful and most endowed for the sex." In English it sounds ridiculous, but in French the ladies must dig it.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 6:00 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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pinga
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NOKNA,
"....thanks Pinga,made my day,i'm easy to please. but you know how i feel about you and what i think of you...."
SAME SAME here NokNa. Same same here. Keep trying....
BTW excellent thread guys....
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:10 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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bangkropolis2020
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yes chompoo,"most endowed for sex" very smooth , very smooth. translation"huge hooters for f_cking"
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 10:58 pm on Feb. 3, 2003
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