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Arcadius
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Being at least polite (and preferably tolerably friendly) to a girl you don't want can pay dividends - you need to remember that your behaviour is under scrutiny the whole time. This kind of thing will advertise to the other BGs (who can see perfectly well you're not interested in her) that you're a 'nice guy' - and may work better for you in the long run than sitting on your tod grimly clutching a beer.
It's certainly not unknown for unwanted girls to fetch a girl they can see you ARE interested in - especially if it's a friend of theirs. In this case, you should slip them a decent tip because it's in everyone's interest to encourage such behaviour.
So, yes, sometimes these situations work themselves out brilliantly and everybody wins. Sometimes they don't work out at all. Brand newbies ought to be aware that it's not always going to be a success every time you step foot in a bar, and there's no 'painting by numbers' routine you can learn to make it so. Sometimes, everything seems to go wrong and it's just bloody frustrating. There comes a point when you have to make a judgment whether things are likely to come together for you or not, and if not... well, you just politely pay the checkbin and decamp to the bar next door. LOS being the bizarely unpredictable place it is, you can return to that first bar tomorrow, and quite possibly have the best night of your trip.
Whatever happens, just avoid being boorish, rude or bad-tempered in the bars - you have absolutely nothing to gain by this. If I start getting irritable in a place, I pay the checkbin ASAP before this has a chance to fester. There's nothing more likely to guarantee a real bummer of a night than trekking round the bars in a foul temper, so try to be philosophical about it when things don't work out.
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Posted on: 2:48 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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Smegma
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The return of the killer quote-n-reply tomatoes!
Chompoo is back!! 
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Posted on: 3:15 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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Chompoo
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Being at least polite (and preferably tolerably friendly) to a girl you don't want can pay dividends - you need to remember that your behaviour is under scrutiny the whole time.
On the other hand you can easily also be too polite and end up with several pesky hangers-on who are not adding much value to your experience.
It's a fine line.
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Posted on: 3:53 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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BigDUSA
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Tigercode73,
I'm starting to get the impression your winding people up with your post.
I guess my question is, what are you a social worker on a rescue mission or a guy looking to pay a women for services rendered?
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Posted on: 4:54 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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Arcadius
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It's a fine line
It certainly calls for a little thing called 'judgment', but then interacting relatively smoothly with other people tends to.
Seems to me that the alternative to being 'polite and tolerably friendly' is to appear unpleasant. I mean, this would be any reasonable person's normal demeanour until provoked. It's quite compatible with signals that you have no intention of taking a girl to bed or allowing her to monopolise your attention.
She will react to this graciously or not. If not, then your own obligations to be civil start eroding fast. But I certainly think people who make unwanted advances should be given every chance to withdraw with dignity intact - and sometimes you can make a useful friend.
If you have any ongoing intentions towards a bar, then putting up with some temporary imposition is a lesser evil than coming over as a prick. Maybe this weighs more heavily with expats and regular visitors than occasional tourists.
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Posted on: 6:06 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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DSBones
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If a girl has made the decision that she wants to talk to me & as long as she is not pushy then I will invariably buy her a drink.
If there happens to be a girl in the bar that I need to speak to at that time then I will get the first girl to bring her over. I am comfortable with this scenario & I have never had any difficulties. It helps if you are content to bide your time & maybe return the next day for the girl that you are truly interested in. If you are in " dog with two dicks" mode then this approach is not for you (& of course you may still have to deal with 'unwanted' girl the next day if you have not previously made it clear to her).
I think regular visitors & expats generally do not concern themselves with these issues as opportunities are endless. I try and look at it positively as a welcome break from the relentless pursuit of available women. A much needed breather!!
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Posted on: 6:59 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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nokna
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nice to see you posting after a while Chompoo...
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Posted on: 10:58 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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ABC
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** This space for rent!! I posted in the wrong place. **
So, I will just say hello to Nokna!! ha ha ha!!
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Posted on: 10:59 pm on Mar. 18, 2004
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Arcadius
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DSB
I think regular visitors & expats generally do not concern themselves with these issues as opportunities are endless
Well, you might be surprised. The opportunities may be endless in theory, but the kind of places you like to frequent may not be.
For example, my preferred hunting grounds are the GGs. There are a lot of these in BKK, but they're not limitless, and over time I've tended to assign them certain roles - at NEP, Voodoo's usually a good place if I'm in a certain kind of mood, Carousel if I'm in a different mood and so on.
It's just not in my interest to blot my copybook at any of these places. So if I run into a spot of temporary bother one night, it's far better to ride it out than risk getting myself branded as mai dee. After all, I've got all the time in the world. No doubt a guy who's going to be in BKK all of 3 days and probably won't be back to LOS for another year can afford to be a lot more cavalier.
Addition: In general, I think the dynamics are very different for these groups over a wide range of situations we discuss. Expats can play everything long and will want to avoid fouling their own nest. The priority of many short-time visitors is to pack as much sex as they can into a very short space of time. If I'm making a (rare) trip to Pattaya, say, I don't behave in quite the same way as when I'm on home turf in BKK - I can afford to be more careless and often am.
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Posted on: 2:02 am on Mar. 19, 2004
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DSBones
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Arcadius
I think we are in agreement on this. I thought that was how my post read but each person puts their own perspective to the words.
As a v. regular visitor to BKK I do not generally turn away girls who have approached me. There is always another time or day to chat to your preferred option.
Voodoo - used to go in there a lot but stopped a few months back because of one or two demanding waitresses who seemed to think I was their own personal property. Shame, because there are a few other girls in there who are very pleasant.
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Posted on: 2:49 am on Mar. 19, 2004
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