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LadyAnne
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Bro BigDusa
Your experiences are evry interesting for me.
AS you guys are guys,can you pls tell me how easy for guys to fall in love woman?What in gals that you will pay attention at the first? Good looking,long black hair,good shape or nice personality?
What if I'm not beautiful ..but want to have guys to be in love with?
Ohhhhh..Just would like to know what's you guys thinking in women..
**smile**smile**smile**
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 7:42 am on May 18, 2003
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BigDUSA
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All men are different.
I'm 56 y/o and when I was a young man, I looked for different thing in a women then many other men.
Most men are suckers for a good looking women. I've always believed in letting them crowd around her. I would look at the girls who were not so pretty and maybe have lumpy bodies. No crowd's around these girls. I looked for a women who spoke well and was interested in what life had to offer. I like people who read and have a interest in what's going on in the world around them. I like a women with a strong sense of self. ÝWhen I was in high school, my best buddy laughed, you go out wih the biggest collection of dogs, BUT you have the most fun with them then all of us. The pretty ones were for the most part interested only in themselves. The girls I was with were interested in ME.
Looks fade but you live with the personality for a long time. Sad but true most guys don't GET IT.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 8:46 am on May 18, 2003
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Arcadius
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Lady A
You must have seen many farang guys in Bangkok with a Thai girl in tow. I'm talking about couples which seem to be in long-term relationships, not casual pick-ups.
Now farang and Thais ideas about female beauty are different. But quite a lot of of these girls are not good-looking by any standard. So it follows, doesn't it, that beauty alone cannot be the deciding factor for many guys? I mean, Bangkok is one place where finding a beautiful woman - if that's the most important thing - is not difficult.
There's no point in generalising. I don't think most people really know why they fall in love with someone else - it just happens.
In my own time, I've managed to fall in love with women ranging from very beautiful through quite cute to downright plain.
I've also managed to fall in love with uneducated bargirls as well as highly-educated professional women. While the experience was very different, I would not say that it was inferior.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 9:37 am on May 18, 2003
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PopSecret
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Lady A,
I think I agree with BigDUSA for the most part. Most guys fall in LUST based on looks more than anything. Guys are braindead when they are in lust, and often confuse this feeling with LOVE. However, true love requires a special bond than can be established only by people who really know each other. That's not to say that you can't eventually love the girl you first lusted after, but that's not the kind of thing you can depend on.
I say this because this has been my experience. I have wasted countless amounts of energy and time focusing on girls I thought were pretty and ignoring the girls who would have made a real difference in my life. Even when I traveled to Thailand, I started out by picking girls based purely on looks while my more expereinced friend picked girls based on their attitude.
In the end I almost always had a good time, but my very best experience happened with the girl I found least visually appealing. She catered to me in ways that the other girls never even attempted, and her kindness was incredibly satisfying - both physically and mentally. It was a true reminder of all those facts I should have learned eons ago.
Lady A, I honestly don't know exactly what you're looking for with this question (advice, witty banter, a list of turn-on's?), but I hope this provides at least a little insight into the mind of at least one man. Hopefully you will eventually get a lot more responses from the rest of the bros so you can see the bigger picture. Just because I agree with BigDUSA doesn't mean we're not the exception instead of the rule.
-PS
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Posted on: 11:00 am on May 18, 2003
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Skywalker
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Better Count me in as another exception to then PS!!
Lady A if you have such a fascination with farangs just hang around with a few and get to know them as friends, a life rich in variety when interacting with others is surely what makes it so interesting?
S.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 6:29 pm on May 18, 2003
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LadyAnne
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LUST come before LOVE
or
LOVE come before LUST
SEX without LOVE
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LOVE without SEX
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:15 am on May 20, 2003
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Arcadius
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All those things are possible, aren't they? Even for the same person.
I think sex without love comes more naturally to men than to women, though.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:21 am on May 20, 2003
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Ballsburstin
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LadyAnne,
When I met my TGF the first time, I knew within 5 minutes that I wanted to be with her. Not sure why, but I had this instinctive feeling that I had to do SOMETHING and do it now, before she disappeared from my life forever. Physically, she's pretty enough, but what I really like about her is her personality. She is very kind hearted, and she lets me be me. I do like long hair, and hers was down to her waist when I met her. She has since cut about 8 inches off it and threatens to make it even shorter -- I told her not to do it. To me, her hair is like a beautiful dark waterfall, and I love to run my hands through it. BTW, my TGF is the least educated woman I've been with, but is smart and practical in other ways.
By comparison, I also fell deeply in love once with a really smart, broadly educated lawyer from Los Angeles, who, come to think of it, had a similar personality to my TGF. But the timing for that relationship wasn't right. That lady wasn't the prettiest I've been with, but I was attracted to who she was inside, a really exceptional person.
I agree with BigD -- in the end, looks fade, but the heart must continue to hold the flame.
- Balls
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Posted on: 12:49 pm on May 20, 2003
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Addy 007
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I pretty much agree with the other bro's that I initially fall in lust- short term, but when Iíve fallen in love it's with a girl I didn't particularly hold an initial attraction for, but she grew on me. Love is so much more than good looks ñ however saying that good looks do hold the initial attraction.
I do like pretty girls, but not too beautiful - I find these ladies superficial and shallow. I want someone I fall in love with to be a wife, lover, friend & companion. These are the qualities that hold a relationship together.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 3:59 pm on May 20, 2003
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oneeye
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Balls;
"When I met my TGF the first time, I knew within 5 minutes that I wanted to be with her. Not sure why, but I had this instinctive feeling that I had to do SOMETHING and do it now, before she disappeared from my life forever."
Wow, this struck a chord with me! ÝI did this with my TGF - literally love at first sight, and just a desperate emotion on my part that I had to act before she disappeared, or someone else got her. ÝShe headed off for postgraduate education overseas, and I've spent the last 5 years chasing her around the globe. ÝA truly sappy romantic story as we've both gone to extreme travel lengths to be with eachother. Ý
However, I cannot say that I've been truly happy with this decision. ÝThe differences that have emerged over time are so great that I don't know if we are going to make it. ÝAnd those differences are only discovered through experience. I've heard of some people deciding on their future spouse within 5 minutes of meeting them, perhaps Richard Nixon being the most notable one I can think of. But frankly RN's marriage was not completely happy.
In my case, it wasn't lust, but was a serious effort to find love, that drew me to my TGF. ÝLust is indeed immediate, but after this experience I am convinced that real love takes serious time to emerge, that it cannot happen at first sight. Ý
Look at the way Thais do things - they tend to date forever (without sex even!) before getting married. ÝThe norm I've noticed with educated Thais is around 5-6 years, and in some cases 10. ÝDivorce is uncommon in Thailand, although I think this is because allowances are made in Thai marriages that are unthinkable in western ones.
Anyway, I have to think that a go-go bar is not a great place to be lookin' for love. ÝOk to find lust with love overtones, but I definitely would be wary of thinking any customer-supplier relationship along these lines would really turn into binding love. ÝWhen I was playing more seriously, I limited my go-go bar activities to looking for Mrs. Right Now, not Mrs. Right.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:19 pm on May 20, 2003
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