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seajohn
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Sometimes a woman hits you like no other has before. But you got to realize that every one you've ever met has done so. That doesn't make it any easier. Intellectual comprehension isn't enough in life. Even if we understood the ins and outs of some major thing like say the force of gravity, angels would still fall.
You have to look into the future, through its dark glass, and try to see where its all going. Life is short. I can only thank those who have passed on for their examples; I should leave a trail, too, of advice and warnings. A forum like this valuable in that way, too, come what may. Life is short, as I was saying, and love will go on, each to more, to more. A new love will be found if you have faith in love, though it seems impossible. Who am I talking to, myself? Faith is actually believing in the impossible through the will of life and in the exercise of something such as love, if love is what you need (we do need it). My words are almost incoherent to me as well; pain in every one of our lives can cloud vision. But faith... if you can't say goodbye to a love once in a while, you won't be able to find a greater love, not the same, but different and valuable. Making no claims, that's all I have to say and I hope it boosters anybody suffering love anywhere.
Life is joy.
Joy comes from Desire.
Desire can be prolonged.
Life is eternal.
I flip Buddha but I ain't flippant. I am on the bright side of things when my heart is black. I only get on that bright side of things when I see that my heart gets dark because it wants love as much as I do thinking about it, feeling it so far and hard to secure. But it comes from all directions. I'm thinking now for some reason of that line of Charles Mingus... "Don't be afraid, the clown's afraid too"... I think my heart is that clown compared with my mind looking at life. He maybe was talking to other people, as I am talking to you, noble members, but I had to see the fear and the love in myself before I could write this post, or almost any post addressed to yuns that I've written here, to you over the years.
7X70 times, it was once said, we should forgive our brother. Hell, do so. But when you forgive (and this is why some people don't want you to forgive them, very painfully), you become their teacher. After you have become your own. Heal thyself. It is far better to be the nurse than the patient when someone does you wrong. Make this leap with yourself and move on. Some people don't like what you have to say, but it's for their good if you love them.
From respect to those who knew the deceased, I would like to be sincere about the reality of pain. You have to cry out. Cry out. You see your brother crying too. Think of somebody like Viktor Frankel. What did he cry later when he got his senses together?
Sometimes I dream along these lines about life... That since we have fashioned schools in which to learn all kinds of useful things, we certainly could establish a school in which to learn better, more efficacious happiness, a spiritual virtue in the face, the black backdrop of our mortality—in fact to learn all of them in front of this black backdrop. Folks will say that these are subjective qualities that cannot be uttered. But that’s ridiculous; otherwise you wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between yourself now and yourself twenty years ago. There is a big difference of mind which you are aware of and reminisce on in various attitudes. Oh, but you say, it is still subjective and cannot be communicated to others because our private understanding is too personally related to ourselves. But of course that’s nonsensical, since communication happens every day in every way. I would be astonished if you had never considered anyone’s advice, whether before or after any act, and not related it to yourself, whether you think it helped you or not. Still, you say, it cannot be systematized because it is a living experience far too vast to subject to any kind of method. But naturally, that’s rubbish, since we have already developed such things as martial arts and singing—and they continue to develop as a matter of fact. That is a lame excuse, all in all, always felt by neophytes who are intimidated by a huge world of experience which always seems at first completely amorphous.
I don't have a system to offer you at this moment--perhaps later, if ever, it almost seems crazy--but merely the promise that you can understand yourself and make better with courage and joy, despite pain, rather following the 4 precepts I outlined above instead of any philosophy whatsoever than begins with a premise that life is bad.
Jingjo, since you seemed to have known him better, I now address you and hope that my feeble words have shown some respect to him and you, his family, me even, and our lives.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 12:37 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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jingjo
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China Sailor and other thanks!
Sea John
Jack Rabbit was a better friend than I was, I was more like a shoulder to lean on from time to time, I only found out of his passing by coincidence.
It's good to see we have a strong comrade ship still alive on the site and will try to have a beer with you guys when possible!
I'm over soon when the waters and bad weather ceases on the way to China only 2 nights my shout.
There's a about three or four key board warriors here on bkk2night and one that can't help him self even on an a Obituary thread but leopards never change there spots till there dropped.
Seajohn
Guys like you and China Sailor come across as Good People, I've enjoyed both your posting over the years and you both have a lot of mileage and life experience never bragging about this or that like a certain member hear seems to do here for self importance 
BK has been kind enough to let Eloits Sister take over his account with a new username, She fly's back home to Bali today where she owns a Bar & Restaurant so if any members need a visa run to Bali please look her up, I'll ask her to post in the Promotions section as they have a band called jiggy jig and a drag cabaret show a couple nights per week.
http://www.balibeachshack.com/
Maybe Beretta passing might wake someone up.
Many look for love in the wrong places many fall for Beauty or they Qualify themselves to quick, I have this I own that etc to impress the Lady, than it's game on poor punter believes he is a Hamsun man, well she roots me 3 times a day and tells him he's the ducks guts so he thinks he must be.
Wrong it's all about the MONEY they live for the day not the future (most)
Life is but a stopping place,
A pause in what's to be,
A resting place along the road,
to sweet eternity.
We all have different journeys,
Different paths along the way,
We all were meant to learn some things,
but never meant to stay...
Our destination is a place,
Far greater than we know.
For some the journey's quicker,
For some the journey's slow.
And when the journey finally ends,
We'll claim a great reward,
And find an everlasting peace
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 3:43 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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dirty guru
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I asked my 22 year old University going daughter if you can find love in Asia?
She would have said a few years ago no-
And though she is a feminist she is intelligent enough to give due consideration-
One was her uncle (mothers brother) Who ran an advertising company in Bangkok and brought back a Girl (with 2 degrees) as his wife- (who my daughter likes)
Another is her Grand mothers ex husband (on mothers side) who re married in Hong Kong a very lovely refined Asian woman-
Then She knows a friend whose mother was Thai-
It went on - she even likes my wife alot- so in the end agreed yes, ofcourse you Can-
There are no Absolutes-
Looking for love in what place?
Hookers?
Well I admit it can be fraught with danger but know many a marriage that even those Girls (given a chance) have made work-
Western woman sometimes over look the subtle but honest fact that all human beings be they bar girls in south east asia or not can be capable of love-
I would caution fishing for a wife there- In bars-
But it has been successfully done-
But certainly finding Love in Asia is actually not so hard- there are many ordinary woman there-
This site concerns itself with p4p activities- ocansionally the two over lap-
If all are honest we have at one time or another fallen for a bar girl-
In Asia or elsewhere when humans of opposite sexes interact anything is possible
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 3:56 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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DaffyDuck
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Quote: from jingjo on 3:43 am on Oct. 8, 2011
Maybe Beretta passing might wake someone up.
No, 'fraid it won't.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 5:24 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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dirty guru
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As you can see just by this small sample of online addresses Men will always go and seek out Asian woman-
I found love with a straight regular Girl - as did many here - like Jingjo and countless others
Asia offers many girls who are nurses, shop workers, a whole range of girls looking for a man
Dont confuse p4p with regular girls-
There is a difference-
But I have known men to marry bar girls and end up happy for many years.
Some men have happily stayed married with bar girls many have had alot of trouble- its all about choices
Plenty of regualr woman to date out there (non p4p)
We all have our reasons-
I still enjoy p4p but provide well for my wife -
Elliots story was a tragic case of hanging on to a rotten apple too long and not finding the inner strength to start over-
Maybe he should have dated a new girl from a dating site-
Many are straight meaning non p4p
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 8:07 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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atl
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SJ,
very poignant and freudian read, indeed 
On another professional note, I was getting drunk with my boss...and he wanted to know about my time in Thailand, out of curiosity.....
He thinks the fact I moved across the world to take a 3 year "working" vacation is unheard of 
I will PM you regarding my query, but I am dumbfounded about it to this day about how you knew my employment situation (how I left assumption to sell condo's and eventually land the job as Sales Manager for Chateau De Loei wines in Phuket?)
Only people in the "know" can possibly know that...and I know who you are....much the same as you know who I am......I am cool with that, cool mate???
atl
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:41 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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jingjo
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quote from DG:
Jingjo found love in Asia- just a regular girl-
Mate there's a lot that you will never know about me nor my Wife, she's NO regular Lady as you put it, and I can't understand where you sometimes get the idea you know it all about myself and my Family.
Ok my Wife is a Chef now but in her previous career man she was at the top of he game, just like me you think you know me on one meeting !
When one reaches a certain age and have seen enough had enough they move on, you DIRTY only see the scene you want to see, the dark side is all around.
You play some crazy mind game DIRTY to get attention on a pussy forum why man no one gives a shit, well blonk might but again who cares about another stranger to the truth.
I ask you again forget about me and follow some one else around with your theories.
Do I have to have an operation to get you off my back?
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:50 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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DaffyDuck
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Jingjo, dude, just ignore that loser DG.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:59 pm on Oct. 7, 2011
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james bond
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Agree just ignore Jingjo, you are only giving him more ammunition.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 2:33 am on Oct. 8, 2011
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dirty guru
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Jingjo I am puzzled-
When I met you and you asked about where I was living in Thailand and where I met my wife - you asked me "if she was a regular girl or ex bar girl"?
Thats Fact-
So why pretend you didnt know what I was saying ?
Date sites are "full of regular girls" meaning non sex workers
People know when you use a context like met a "regular girl for a drink" it means not a sex worker.
It seems harsh you pretend I meant anything more than saying many men met their wifes outside of P4p
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 2:50 am on Oct. 8, 2011
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