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traveller7777
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I recently fell in love with a Massage girl (full service shop). I've read many posts about relationship failures with Bargirls because most lie, have multiple sponsors and/or farang bf or secret thai bf.
What is your opinion on Massage girls? Are Massage girls different or the same in terms of trusting them? If I sponsor a Massage girl, would she be faithful (not have clients or other bf) or would she lie like most Bargirls? She saids she does not have a bf.
I am out of the country most of the time and visit couple times a year, so trust is an important factor.
I am obviously very distressed that she services customers every day and I want to sponsor her, but I do not want to get burned like I've read about in many posts/forums about Bargirls. I am in my late 30s, so I do not have much life savings (to waste/get burned) as some other sponsors, so I'm asking your opinions before I leap into this.
FYI. She is 18 and started massage in the middle of this year.
I would very much appreciate everyone's expert opinion. Thanks.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 10:46 am on Nov. 1, 2011
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thailife
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here we go again..................................... either marry her or dump her, ther eis no in between....... and after you marry her and bring her to your country, make sure you buy her a lot of coloring books and DVD's of cartoons....... Get her a didlo, and lots of massage lotion so she can get you off every day.
Otherwise, all is well.
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Bangkok Women : Meet Sensual Bangkok Women
Posted on: 11:08 am on Nov. 1, 2011
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Kaymanx
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You are in your 30s, she is 18, you don't have money to burn, you visit Thailand only a couple of times in a year (length of stay not known), you look for trust, you are also aware of the pitfalls of falling in love in P4P. All these indicate you are also smart.
You ask, "If I sponsor a Massage girl, would she be faithful ?" This question might be asked in any relationship, for that matter. Trust comes with knowledge. Knowledge comes after being with each other for some length of time. She would have the same questions about you, viz, how many massage parlours do you frequent ? Or, once you go back to your country how would she know what you are up to ? Get real, and accept that this is a mutually equal situation. Either you start trusting her (which means risk some sponsorship) and be prepared for a let-down or simply lie back and enjoy the 2 hour oily. Love is a terrible challenge when lovers are separated. You might know that already.
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Thai Girls : Meet Sexy Thai Girls
Posted on: 1:21 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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dirty guru
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I hate to question you - so ask maybe you question yourself-
Ask yourself why you love her?
Do you actually fall in love easy- or need love ?
(send me somebody to love type)
Is there a hint of magical exotic sex that manifests in some recessess as mistaken love?
You seem smart enough and by your questions indicate deep down know the answers-
You will heAR fROM others here (ironically married to thai's ) denounce such moves-
Claim their wife is best in world and never ever worked etc
Then go on to put shit on bar girls - lock stock and barrel-
*(all the while omitting slight details like they are secretly gay or dont even sleep with their wife)
Look over almost 20 years I have to tell the truth about such matters-
There is no one correct answer-
Thailife is right about extremes in one sense-
The ones that I have seen work out (and that means bar girl/massage girls...and assorted hookers) tend to have quickly married-
I see their facebook today with kids and smiles a decade on-
The ratio is about 4 failures to one success in my experience-
Recently we lost a member here to love sickness and rejection and pain and ultimately the demon drink-
Nice guy just not tough enough to move on-
I am clincial but wasnt always-
I married bar girls -
Never worked out
I ended up with a hag from the country who believes in mermaids and likes pigs and cows and tractors- and tells mostly the truth and takes care of me-
But I have mistresses 15 years younger who look hot and want me
Or so they say?
You see thats the name of the game-
A heady mix of lust and sex and youth and what you want to hear-
Maybe you need to work this one out for yourself?
Pm me I am in Bangkok in 3 days let me check her out and over the service ask her questions that might indicate her long term plans and goals and possibilities-
My radar is good-
If she is sweet - its possible
And in Ten years time you might be happy you trusted me-
Otherwise listern to the goons who will scream down your heart-
Remember she might grow to love you and if you treat her right end up happy-
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Sexy Bangkok Girls
Posted on: 1:49 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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jingjo
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Two old Police Songs come to mind
Message in a Bottle (Massage in a Brothel)
And Roxanne
and than there's Joe Jackson Fools in love.
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 3:22 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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China Sailor
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Damn, here we go again.... to answer the question directly, YES!
The source of a bargirl and a massage girl are the same... poor families from the provinces. The cold truth of the matter is that 'blood is thicker than water' and when her family hears that she has a Farang boyfriend the demands will start coming in.
Worst yet is to be an absentee Sponsor. If the girl goes home she will become the family's breadwinner and you will be subject to increasing demands for support that, if not forthcoming will result in the girl going back to work.
If you set her up in BKK the situation becomes more risky as she will be alone, bored, and exposed to a circle of friends who are working and flashing cash... eventually she will go back to work just to keep sane.
Good Thai girls do not work bars, nor do they work full service massage. The Thai girls from good middle-class families work in offices, schools, and retail.
My suggestion is to get your ass out to Cowboy, Nana, or Queens Park; get drunk and fall in love all over again.... then you will realize that they are all the same.
Finally, if you really want to get married there are hundreds of girls of all ages that pay matchmakers to find them a Farang husband. They are educated, employed, read/write good English, and from what I hear on the street they are as passionate (and possessive) as your teeny massage girl...
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Bangkok Women : Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Posted on: 3:35 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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joker7
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How you can expect to have a girl to stay faithfull to you just because you pay her money every month is ridiculous - even more so when you state you only stay twice a year in thailand.
Her eyes will be roaming every day for someone who is actually a bit more committed to thailand than that.
She is only 18 ffs please dont waste her life by giving her 5k / month sending her up country then run her off when she actually wants something from you which isnt money ie marriage or a child.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 3:38 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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DrLove
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A whore is a whore.... whether she services men in a massage shop, massage parlor, bar or on the street.
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Thai Girls : Meet Active Thai Girls
Posted on: 4:24 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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cheapcharlie
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Either way you look at it your f***ed if you take dg advice and marry her quick you run the risk of not knowing all the details. But the longer you leave her working there the harder it will get.The upcountry and bangkok sponsership is
fairly covered and also a minefield.
CS advice to go out and fall in love with another works and is good advice. I do it all the time but made my self immune to girls I physically f***ed its the ones I did not f*** that I fall for. Easy way to wean off choose again like CS suggests.
Last trip I fell in love with a bar owner in pattaya of all things. All seemed well until requests for money started coming [im using one of her sms messeges for my signature] Thats when im chatting on messenger with my filipina web cam girl every day.When that gets too much my favorite top gfe whore was back in town so I f*** her a few days a week.
So it goes around and a few weeks later you forgot all about them and they are just a memory.
My report in aug on the spa in soi 4 the massage girl decided after my 3rd visit that we were an item. Which meant for her only giving blow jobs [ her words ] to clients instead of FS and I had to give up being a butterfly  . It also meant she wanted to see me outside of work to go shopping with sex afterwards of course at her house. She also stopped using rubbers and started talking about babies on my last visit, we had used the rythem method a few times already.
Now even I was living in bangkok this would be a precarious and dangerous enough situation. But living abroad and visiting 1 or 2 times a year forget it. I took her e mail but never went back she was soon forgotten when I hit soi 6 in pattaya.
If you think she is the one and you have the cash to take her out of thailand do it and buy the stuff TL advices throw in thai tv and a shop selling thai food and pray to buddah and as DG rightly says it can work out.
But when the problems start it aint pretty and im talking first hand experience I married an ex mama san 12 yrs ago.
But some of the shit I had to deal with is nothing compared to others I know. Especially anywhere where things are loose I mean where you live, I live in a european city famous for drugs and whores. One guy has not been to thailand for 5 yrs because his tilac has a gambling habit and lost the house. Another through 3rd party info girl working as hooker here tells in the bar her husband does not know he think she go see her girlfriend.But shes on her back servicing tourists for 2 k instead. Then theres the drugs especially for the young ones charlie goes down well but needs to be paid for with tricks.Lots of them are at it behind the husbands back massages here massages there mine just watches tv all day but tells me the storys.
We come out of a pussy but spend our whole lives trying to get back in again.
We may be impatient to marry but just as impatient to be single.
I know im looking forward to being free again
Play on move on to the next one game on 
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Thai Women : Meet Matured Thai Women
Posted on: 6:41 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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bingo629
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Quote: from thailife on 11:08 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
imho thailife nailed it there.
move on buddy or prepare for hart ache.
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Bangkok Girls : Meet Attractive Thai Girls
Posted on: 8:49 pm on Nov. 1, 2011
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